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writes:I was seeing a guy who i still really like and can't get him out my head, he told me he could not see me but really likes me, but he has anxiety problems, and feelings for his ex. He said he does not want to hurt me as he will let me down as having hard time at the moment.Anyway i have now stopped contacting him for the last few days, but would like to again, with no pressure, but can't help feeling should wait for him.Basically is there anyway i could work at winning him back slowly, as he did say and act like he really liked me, and i think he is scared, but hey could be wrong it could just be me????
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Being there as a friend is always good but definitely not pushing for anything more. Just offer your services if he needs anything, any help etc and then back away. If you are a good listener or can lend support without there appearing to be any ulterior motive thats also very good. I have often found that if you don't ask for anything with men then they start to look to you and then that eventually leads to love. That has happened with me twice, each time with me just being there and not asking for more. He has been open and honest with you and he obviously cares a great deal about you and he appears to be going through a hard time. Lend an ear, text to see if he is ok but nothing heavy and just be there when he needs you. I think when he feels a bit happier in himself then he will look to you once again. Just be a supportive friend and watch things grow from there. All the best,
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I don't think you have to win him back; it sounds as if you were good friends; the guy obviously likes you and valueas and respects you; thus he was being very honest and open with you regarding his feelings and situation;
I suggest you respect that;give him some time to sort out his life; but no harm in stayng in contact as good friends; but don't be pushy or make him feel you are expecting more then what he can offer now;
I suggest to try that for a while and see what happens; even meet for coffee or something down the line; but don't hang around waiting for this guy forever; keep going out with other friends;
Best wishes.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Sounds to me like he could do with a friend, send him a text message or something and just say to him something like... Hey its only me, just wanted to know that i'll always be there for you as a friend if you need me. Or along those lines, and be there for him as a friend, and see how things magically progress! I've done this a couple of times, it seems to work for me lol x good luck x
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