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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and I've always been there by his side through the good and bad. We had an argument at one of his friends houses, something we could have worked out like we always do, but he walked away from me and when I ran out of being so hurt, he didn't come chase me, or even look back. It was 12am and I was by a canal and a main intersection. He called my cell a few hours later, and he still says he loves and cares about me, but falls silent when I asked why he wasn't there for me then. The only thing he could say was that he was upset and thats why he didn't come. Should I forgive him, or just let it go? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (29 April 2007):
 He didn't come after you but you didn't turn back and go to him either. You were both equally in the wrong. It shouldn't always have to be him making the first move. He's confirmed he loves you and cares for you but you don't believe it and it seems to me that your lack of faith is a bigger problem for your relationship than the way you both react following arguments. Are you sure you're not just using this as an excuse not to be with him anymore?
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Girl, he has already said he care about you. Let me tell you something, in an arguement, it is NOT about giving in to the other party but saving a beutiful relationship.Maybe he was hurt by things that was said during the arguement, that's why he didn't come after you, least both of your gets into another aguement again. I can see he is trying to save the relationship. At least he called. He has made the first move.Instead of asking why wasn't he there for you when he called. It seems like it's his fault when he didn't come after you. You could like say, "I care for you too". It solves everything. Call him. And make sure you don't question him about that night anymore. Just apologise (even if you're not in the wrong) and tell his how much you love him.Fell free to send me mails on any other questions or followups.Good Luck!
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