A
female
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:I cheated on my bf with a guy from work. We broke up because we had so many problems but then he showed me significant changes that made me want to be with him again. We talked some things over yesterday and I wanted a fresh start so I told him about what happened with the guy at work and he went absolutely ballistic. It's taken so much talking and screaming and arguing but we've now resolved it and are ready to work towards being in a relationsip. So why the hell am I still thinking about this guy from work? I know he's bad news, he has a girlfriend but he won't stop flirting with me. My boyfriend is the most loving devoted person you will ever meet and I love him to death and want to be with him, but I keep fantasizing about being with the other guy. What's going on?
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (30 June 2008):
 Why does a girl want "the bad boy"? Because something in her is not ready to settle down. Water seeks it's own level, which is to say that we are drawn to people at the same level of dysfunction as ourselves. Emotionally healthy people repel emotionally unhealthy people, and vice versa.
If you know the one you have is a keeper, you will just have to resist the temptations for "the bad boy". Eventually, you will lose the craving. If you don't ... it is a sign that you have more healing and growing needed inside.
best wishes
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