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writes:My Fiance and I have been engaged for 2 months now and anytime we discuss wedding plans we end up argueing about insignificant details such as what type of menu his family would enjoy. He seems to be more concerned about having a wedding his family would be happy with than what I would like for it to be. He's even gone as far as changing the date so an out of town relative could make it. I fear that his priority is his family and my feelings come second. It is making me doubt the success of our future together. I want to feel like I am the most important person in his life...am I asking for too much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): When I read your post my heart went out to you. My husband made me change our wedding date because it interefered with an event his family had got in their mind. He did not have much to do with the wedding but our big day was compared by his family to others they had been to and was deemed not as good. My advice is - change your approach. This is YOUR wedding. It is not a day for everyone else. If I had my time again I would not have a great big day I would make it small, intimate and personal to me and my man. No stress. No drama. We live and learn. Stand your ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): Hmm I don't think this sounds like a good start.
When my fiance and I were planning our wedding he went out of his way to make sure it was exactly the way I wanted it.
The wedding is supposed to be your day. I suggest you sit down and have a talk with him, keep it light and don't get defensive and find out his reasoning.
Are you sure this is the guy you want to marry? They don't change you know....
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 March 2010):
It's a good thing you spotted this now. How long until his family come first in other matters? I think you need to discuss this with your fiance. Don't be controlled.
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