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writes:anyway last night it all went wrong i suppose i was trying to see how he felt and he turned around and said to me. "i can see you like to look after people and you do this but if we were ever together i find you would suffocate me-i was mortified and was distraught when i got home i just quickly said bye and shot off-felt so humiliated. i dont know why he said that-hes always been happy for me to pay and stuff and then he says this i feel such a fool Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Sounds as if he is the type of man who has commitment issues. You were obviously good to him, but sometimes it's not good to give someone everything they need. Holding something back, creates an air of mystery and men like that.
Don't feel humiliated, maybe see what he will do. If he is still pushing you away, then move on and find someone else.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 His love for you probably flew out of the windows. It could be a slip of the tongue.
Time to pull back and see what he will do.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Ah bless you. Whats the guy complaining about!! Most would be happy to be looked after. You tested the water with you toe and were rebuffed because he would find being with you suffocating. Charming! Especially as you say hes happy for you to pay ect.
Leave him in no doubt that he has offended you and ignore him. If he really likes you and it was just a case of Tourettes he will apologise and come after you. If he does, just redefine the way you treat him. Step back a little and let him lead.
Ive been there and done that. My partner said something to me in the early days that left me mortified. I sulked for a week and ignored him but then told him how much he had offended me. He hadnt realised because hes stupid lol. So explain to your friend and see what happens. Good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 March 2010):
Not your problem. It's his problem. He has commitment issues and he felt like you and he were getting to close. He got scared and ran away. It's not your problem. It's his problem. so don't feel bad. Accept that he wasn't the one, and move on and find a guy who will love you.
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