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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: have a penpal who happens to be married. I place american flag here but I am from Peru and met him in a mission while he was here (he's military) He's married to another military that I haven't met b/c they don't live here, they're in the US. To me this is my penpal, he talks about being deploy, missing wedding anniversaries, his kids ( from what he talks this is his 2nd marriage and has kids from both relationships, but whatever).Yeah we keep in touch, he likes it I don't know perhaps he likes seen life from a diff perspective, the thing is he says he enjoys the friendship we have and our communications. (I happen to learn english since very little although not perfect , lack of practice). Now, the thing I see awkward is that I don't think his wife knows about me, he hardly mentions his family unless I mention them, but still he's very polite and FRIENDLY, nothing desrespectful toward me or his family.He even send regards to the people he worked here through me (go figure!).He even jokes about me being one of his fav ladies over here along with a lady in his office who was the secretary. Well, my friends see this as wrong, I say no way. I date and have friends , I don't think this is going no where really as like penpal, the only thing that keeps me wondering how much can I have a penpal and what can I tell my friends about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Penpals are really good. They're interesting because you talk to people from seriously long distances and learn about their cultures.
Your friends have it wrong. If nothings going wrong, then friendship between a man and a woman isn't wrong. My best friend is a girl. Doesn't mean anythings going on.
Tell your friends nothing is going on and stand up to them. They will have more respect for you if you do. You need to say nothings happening, so nothings wrong. If they don't understand that then they're either a bit shallow, a bit immature or they just don't understand how friendship works.
Seriously, nothing wrong.
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