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writes:Am in love with this lady who loves me back. Trouble is that I really dont know where our relationship is going because she has issues with me being a Protestant yet she is Catholic. Question one: Is it wise for me to convert for the sake of the relationship? Question two: How big is this issue really? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, WiccanWonder  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 i feel that love should not be controlled by the walls of two seperate churches. If you love her, then marry her, but if it is such a big deal to her and her family then just follow your heats, you should come to the right choice, just do whatever makes you happy =)
I hope this helps
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Tasha x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 It depends on how you look at it. Let's see it as people with a strong commitment with their faith.
She believes in the teachings of the Catholic Church. That is non-negotiable, in a way. If I believe that the moon rotates around the Earth, there's not much space for "negotiation", is there? You believe in the teachings of your Church (I don't know which one). That is non-negotiable, too. Is a conversion really possible? It would, if you honestly believed what the Catholic Church teaches. It would not be conversion if you just did it to be with her.
Is it wise to convert? I don' know. But "conversion" means believing what the other church teaches, not just leaving your own church and joining another group of worshippers.
Now, the One-Million Dollar Question: How big is this issue? As big as you two make it. If you are both willing to find a middle ground in the way you will raise your children and you will live together, then that should be no problem. People of different faiths have married throughout history and I bet that more than one case was successful.
If you two are willing to compromise and give in for the sake of the couple, then I see no problem at all.
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