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writes:So about 10 days ago my girlfriend and I, of over 2 years, broke it off. It started with a fight where we both agreed that we need some space to cool off... then, for her, it turned into space for our relationship. She is questioning our relationship altogether. In the past I have definitely been a little immature when it comes to what shes doing and who she is doing it with ect... But she now says she wants to be with friends and live independently for a while. I realized how immature I was in the relationship and I want to make the changes because I know it's wrong. But she says shes not sure if she wants to give me another chance. She has said she doesnt love me anymore, she doesnt think about me like she used to everyday. But I know she still cares... I recently got her to agree to hang out with me just as friends a couple times to see if that spark is still there in our relationship but it seems like since we made that agreement she has been avoiding hanging out with me. For instance, today I called her in the morning to say hey. She said she didnt work today and she didnt know what shes doing later. I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch or something and she said she thinks she has plans...Should I pursue her anymore? Call her? And if she calls or texts me, should I respond? I'm transferring to a new college in a month which is only an hour drive away, but still I'd like to have a hold on our relationship by then.Am I chasing a catch-less fish?
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reader, anonymousboi  +, writes (8 June 2010):
hey buddy im in the exact same path as you been with her for nearly 1 year . she loved me and i loved her . i cared for her a lot long story short she broke up with me saying she don't love me no more ,i wasnt supportive and ddint respect her thoughts . well know i stuffed up on that part but she knew i loved her alot and would do anything for her. but anyway i still want her back i asked her to give me a chance . i know i can prove to her ive changed ive already started pulling my head out of the sand . but she said she doesn't want to give me a chance she said no one will can change shes wants to move on but i think shes just confused . ive been trying to call her out for dinner or hang out but she said she can be bothered i know is all lies . i think when she sees me she wont be able to hack it . to be honest mate i don't know what have gotten to thee girls how could they be so cold if a man like us did most things right but just forgot some stuff we deserve a chance . i think people have been talking to them saying were not worth getting back just saying shit about us but shit in there head brain washing them . anyways good luck im trying to get my ex back as well the feeling is so bitter
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): If you and her are on "break" then what are the rules about seeing other people and sex with them?
Leave this question open at your own risk.
If you just assume "oh, she wouldn't do that so quickly because I never would either" then you are setting yourself up for hurt.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 June 2010):
Nope, you shouldn't do a thing now. She wants out. Fine. Bow out quietly and retain your dignity. There are others out there. It sounded like she wanted to end it anyway, and the break was her way out. Time to move on.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Yes, I think you are chasing a catch-less fish.
I know it hurts but she is moving on...and you should too.
Learn from this but don't put all of the blame on you. Use this to make your next relationship better.
Good Luck!
One more thing....do NOT date until you are 100% over her or any relationship you will have will have no hope!
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