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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi About 4 months ago I ended things with a guy because he just seemed too casual, I'd see him for an evening and then I wouldn't hear anything for a week or two. I really liked him but I couldn't cope with not seing him as often as I wanted.It ended ok and i said lets be friends but i didn't hear anything until out of the blue last sunday I get a text saying, hi stanger how you doing i'm surprised I've not seen you about. So I sent one back saying i was surprised i hadn't seen him and he said he hadn't felt like going out much. Anyway i then get a text from him saying 'maybe you can take me out wink' I thought it was a bit cheeky so i sent one back saying 'mmmm wink' he then sent a wink with kisses attached. So i sent one back saying have a good sunday and he said you too and i've not heard anything since... I can't really understand why he got back in touch, do you think he was testing the water by saying i could take him out or do you think it was just a friendly hi there how you doing? its really bugging me cuz i got really excited when he got back in touch now i'm disappointed again- but i don't want to make a fool of myself by contacting him cuz i know what its like when an old flame contacts you and you are really not interested even in being friends with them...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Dear Poster
I suggest you look at this for what it was: "a waste of tiem"; he probably felt like fooling around and might have been messing around with numbers and manes on his cellphone; came your aname and it he decided to say hi, flirt a little and that is it; I really suggest you don't read anything more itno it; laugh it off; it was "killing time".
Please don't contact him; that will not look good; no just ignore the incident completely.
I do hope that the right mr charming will be knocking on your door soon; you deserve a good caring guy; but hthis one, no, he is a waste of time.(Don't you ever consider paying to take him out, cheek!)
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 October 2008):
Talk to some people at work and tell them the full story. I think you need practical help now from real people, not internet advice.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses guys its good to hear the different points of view!!! I'm gonna hang fire to see if I hear anything else from his guy- if not like you say its time to move on!!!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 October 2008):
It was an innocent flirt with you, a quick ego boost on a Sunday afternoon.
I know you like this guy and are looking for signs that he wants to get back and be differnt, but he's not going to be.
Move on, and find a guy who can give you what you want.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, for_a_reason +, writes (24 October 2008):
 I think it was a pretty obvious flirt. However, it sounds to me as if he was just looking for a bit of fun - testing the water to see if you replied and were up for some fun too. You ended the text conversation pretty platonically, so he didn't push it.
If you're still interested in him, then I wouldn't feel shy about contacting him. Text him something like, 'Do you still not feel like not going out? ;)' And see what happens.
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