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*lower89
writes:Hi, Guess I'm just looking for reassurance that I have done the right thing. I live in a rented flat and the landlord has a property Manager (PM) who does inspections which should only be done every 6 months or so or if I request a repair. Anyway the PM always gives me the creeps, he used to come out more than required or unannounced. Then I would find myself bumping into him constantly, like I mean everywhere. Whenever I speak to him I always see him staring at my chest or looking me up and down that made me feel sick. He's at least 50! So I went to my female Landlord and requested a female or at least a female to be present when he does his inspections. I jumped into him only a day later, when out with my daughter, after asking this and he gave me a nasty look as though I annoyed him. I haven't seen him for a few days. I was OK to ask this, wasn't I? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 November 2015):
 Asking is always Ok, as Chigirl says, and if you felt uncomfortable being alone with this guy, also a good idea. Always better safe than sorry !
On the other hand, suppose this guy is not some sick perv but simply some innocuous older dude with a roving eye and a strong appreciation for nice female busts ... don't be surprised if he felt mortified in being treated like a potentially dangerous sexual predator. It is surely not a compliment to be implicitely defined that, and if he meant no harm,it will gall him for sure. Ogling women and undressing them with your eyes is surely a nasty habit ( we receive many posts about ogling ) , yet for many men , particularly in this guy 's generation, that's all it is, an impolite habit. Nothing more threatening than that.
The problem is that you cannot know which is which, innocuous dude with a natural liking for pretty girls coupled with very bad manners , or sinister,dangerous perv.
So, in doubt, you have the right to implement measures to protect yourself.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (23 November 2015):
 I agree it was OK to ask, it's up to the owner/landlord to decide if she can/will provide a female for you and other tenants.
Now you said this creepy male would come out more often and/or unannounced - did he access your home? or just on the property? If it was the first, I'd talk with the landlord if it keep happening. I might also ask the other tenants if he does it to them, if he does/doesn't ... contact the landlord. You should NOT feel uncomfortable or unsafe in your own home (even if it is rented).
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2015):
 You're allowed to ask. You're not in a position to demand, but asking is always allowed.
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