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writes:My friend stayed at my house on new years eve! we had the house to ourselves! we are both girls by the way! and we had quite a lot to drink and then we went up to bed and we were lay there together in bed and all of a sudden my friend started to kiss me! and i turned away because i didnt want to i then couldent sleep for thinking about it i turned over and she started to kiss me again! and it wasent just a kiss it was passionate! and i dont know why but i let her and then i kissed her back and we did so for about 2 minutes then she got on top of me and we carried on kissing and through the night we did this many times and we hugged all night! but then when she got on top of me it felt wrong and i asked her what was going on and she shrugged. I then tol her i needed the toilet and got up! i came back to bed and she did it again and we both carried on and it all repeated several times! we got up the next morning and neither of us mentioned it and she was acting as though she didnt rememeber! did she rememeber? im worried that i am a lesbien but now i am regretting what happened that night! i dont know whether it was a drunken mistake but all i can do is think about it! please help! What should i do?
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I went pretty far with a friend, he was a boy and I'm a girl, so it wasn't confusing in the same way, but we didn't talk about it for six months afterwards. I was scared that it would ruin our friendship, but after we talked about it, I regretted not talking about it sooner.
All talking about it did was make our friendship more honest and stronger.
I think you should talk about it with her.
If you are as good friends as you say you are, it shouldn't ruin your friendship with her.
Good Luck
xx
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reader, Itsjustflirting  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 First...you aren't a lesbian. If you DO end up liking girls and doing sexual things with girls, but still like guys as well, you still aren't a lesbian. You would be considered bisexual. There is nothing wrong with either one.
Second, it is completely normal to experiment, especially when you are younger. Everyone does it. If it's not for you, it's not for you, but you'd never know unless you tried it.
Just ask her about it. Your friendship will be fine as long as you make her comfortable in knowing her sexuality makes no difference to you, even if you aren't having the same feelings. She may be having a hard time if she is in fact a lesbian, but more than likely she was just a little buzzed and wanted to have some fun and experiment.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (2 January 2011):
 It didnt feel right because your not gay, and just because you kissed a girl, that doesnt change anything about you, many people do it, whether its drink, or just because they want to know what it is like.
It sounds like your friends doesnt really want to talk about it, do you? If not then there is no reason why your friendship should change in any way, if you do want to talk about it then just ask her whats she thinks about and and you will soon know if she isnt keen on taking about it.
But really there isnt anything to worry about! Hope this helps =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe is into guys! this is what im not sure about! no it didnt feel right for me!But at the same time it was something new and maybe she was experimenting and i think i went with is as an experiment! i was more sober at that point that her! But i dont know whehther she meant it or not because it was very pationate! i dont mean to soun dsilly but it definatly wasent just a peck on the cheek! i knew what was going on and went with it but it wasent right it didnt feel right! but then it kept happenning again! it was strange and i didnt really know what was going on! i want to ask her but we are very good friends! do you think it would ruin the friendship? or is it best to just leave it in the past and move on! we have spoke since and everything has been fine! thanks you for your response!
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reader, pancakes rule +, writes (2 January 2011):
It didn't feel right for you, so I'd say that you're not a lesbian. As for her, she might have been experimenting, it might have been a bit of a crush which she was brave enough to act on under the influence, I'm not sure.
Does she seem like she might be a lesbian or is she into guys?
Whatever it was, you shouldn't be worried about it.
I'm not going to say that you have to talk about it, but if you keep pondering over it, it might be a good idea to take her aside and ask her what it was for her, or if she remembers. Though, I'd say she does remember because if she wasn't drinking while doing this, she would have been sobering up and probably remembers that it happened, even if not too clearly.
Good Luck
xx
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