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writes:My partner and I have been going out for a year, and we live together. Most of her friends live at a distance, so I asked if she wanted to invite some of them to my house for a visit. I was thinking in terms of a couple of nights maximum. Last week, it turned out she had invited two mates with their two children (both under 7) for 5 nights! When I objected to 5 nights because I have never met these people, I work hard (and like to relax on an evening), and because I am not a hotel... she said she needed her independence back, and moved out. Was I unreasonable?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Not unreasonable, but you were not clear about what you meant, so she misunderstood and sent the invitations..
Please appologise and ask her to come back. She sent the invitations already, it would look rude if she took the invitations back.. it's only for 5nights, not a lifetime... it really is silly for you two to break up over such a little thing.
Appologise to your girlfriend, laugh about it, tell her to invite her friends, and assure her next time you say anything, you'll put it in writing so there are no more misunderstandings..
You love her, she loves you.... 5nights still leaves you years of loving to do.. appologise and say it's not worth loosing her over... we all make mistakes, it's noone's fault, so don't make it such a big thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Honestly, I feel you were a little unreasonable. You said how your partners friends live at a distance, and so, you told her to invite some of them to your house. You should have clearly said before she invited them that you'd prefer a couple of nights max... Plus you say you don't know these people, so maybe your partner feels you are not interested in making the effort to get to know her friends.My advice - talk to her. Good luck :)
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