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writes:I know a lot of people would laugh but I figured this was a good place to ask about my problem. I met a guy while playing World of Warcraft about 7 months ago. We are in the same guild. We started talking, I mean REALLY started talking, and I developed feelings but I shrugged them aside because of the distance. Then we stopped talking because there was a new girl and I guess I was maybe hurt? Either way, a couple months passed and we started talking again. But this time, the talking was more serious, and we started texting all the time and going on skype and calling. But the other day, he told me he was losing interest in me because of the distance and the fact that I tend to be really negative (I was previously in a very abusive relationship) I bought a plane ticket so I could actually meet him in person and see how we hit it off. What do you guys think I should do? Should I let it go or should I try to back off a little bit?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Well he was the one who first suggested I come down there. I have a really stressful life and could use the vacation, hence why I decided to come down there.
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reader, annakat +, writes (9 April 2011):
 I think it's great that you've found someone you have a common interest with. I've dated a lot of WoW guys, and I'm sorry but I just don't understand it. Sadly being in an abusive relationship can have a bad affect on all your future relationships. But if you really like this guy and you've already considered it enough to buy a plane ticket to go see him I say go for it. Just be careful and try to have fun. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Look I met my BF on Lineage 2... so it get what you mean and yeah we are long distance as well. But 1st rule, if he loses interest because of how far way you are..then girl sorry but he is NOT for you. A guy that TRULY wants you wont care about the distance and will make the moves first, you SHOULD NOT be the one buying the ticket LOL E should be dying to see you if he was really interested. To me he wants a girlfriend he can have sex with and you cant fulfill that. If HE REALLY wanted to see you or be with you HE would have bought the ticket or HE would be flying to you, or HE would be making the plans to meet you. see what I mean? I kinda looks like you are begging him to like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Yes, he does want to meet me and he said when I visit him he wants to spend as much time with me as possible. He's just afraid I'll be negative down there...basically a buzz kill if you will.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Have you asked him how he feels with you visiting? I think it's a good idea so that he sees what kind of person you are face-to-face, and whether there's anything there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Let me tell you my story.I met the love of my life on WoW. We were in the same guild on a roleplaying server. After a week of talking, he said I love you, and I backed off because it simply wasn't possible. We were preteens. We knew nothing of love.After five years, we're still in love with each other. He lives in Canada and I in the United States (California specifically.) We went through a lot of hard ships, but those five years have broken and bonded us. It takes a lot of patience, a lot of understanding, and you BOTH have to learn that there's no way pride can exist in an LDR relationship. During those five years, we broke up and got with other people, but something attracted us to each other still. There was not one day that I didn't think of him when I was with someone else. Our relationship was destructive, emotionally tiring and at one point I desperately hated him to the point where I wanted to throw up. Last year, I began dating one of my close friends. I thought, "This is it. No more fights, no more cursing, no more heartbreak." And that's now it was for half a year. But STILL, you have to understand, I still thought about -him- and one point told my female friends, "If R came back to me, I would leave W in a heartbeat." (R for the ex, and W for the current bf at the time)Needless to say, I was trying to convince myself I could love someone else. I wanted so hard to forget him but I simply couldn't. I even decided to attend the same college as W, which was in Iowa. I wanted to believe that W and I would get married, have kids, grow old, be happy. Some fanciful notion that I truly convinced myself of. W broke up with me in October, and in December came R. He sent me a dozen letters, pleading to me that he had changed. We began dating again and I will be visiting him for the first time in July. It will be a seven hour trip. I'm nervous as hell.The distance shouldn't bother you or him. Money can cover that. I truly believe that he's my soul mate, my other half, my everything. Five years later, and I still love him. There haven't been fights (we're adults now, more understanding) and he plans to marry me one day.I hope it works out for you. He has to learn to love everything about you if he wants it to work.
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