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Wait for fate or risk it

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Question - (23 March 2023) 4 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2023)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Heya All,

This is a petty question compared to most on here but was just looking the best way to approach a lady I find attractive.

She works behind where I work at a women's hair salon and now and then I have seen her out the back having a cigarette when I am.

this might be once a month and I of course can't confirm when I also can't go into the shop as it's a women's hair salon.

But can I message her on FB or is that odd and do I just have to wait for fate for when I can see her again ?

I don't want to come across as creepy but then again waiting on fate doesn't usually go to plan for me .

thank you

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2023):

Heya Honey,

Thanks for taking the time to answer and for the help. No we dont talk shes kind of on her side and I am on mine and there is no eye contact really so I would have to have an excuse to go over and talk but as you can imagine were only out there for about 3 mins - 5 mins but I guess I could use the classic have you got a lighter to start it off

thank you again

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 March 2023):

Honeypie agony auntDo you talk to her when you are both out for a smoke?

If so, then just ask her out for a coffee or lunch or something.

If you don't then start by saying hi, how are you? And learn to converse with her. See if she COULD be interested. It might take a few weeks but it's a decent way to approach someone.

Do not get in her Facebook DM's

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2023):

Original OP here - thanks Kenny yeah, I feel your correct going on FB wouldn't help.

Its kind of hard just to say hello as she comes out and turns around so I would have to continuously stare at the door ha

And your correct more than likely she is probably taken so best approach with caution

so, I feel it's purely going to be making a random excuse to talk to her of which I have thought of the cheesiest way possible

but thank you a good idea on going and asking for milk I might try that if I get impatient - thanks again

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (24 March 2023):

kenny agony auntI think that sending her a message on FB would be a little creepy so I would refrain from going down that route.

I would advise just taking your time and just take one small step at a time. We really don't know her current situation do we, she could be happily married for all we know.

Next time you see her maybe just say hi as your passing, then next time maybe say something else to try to spark a conversation then just take it from there.

Maybe pop in there one day and say you have run out of sugar, or milk could you borrow some, a conversation could transpire from this maybe.

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