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writes:I'm an 18 year old closeted bisexual. I am also a virgin. I know that once I become sexually active, I will eventually come to more of a conclusion about whether I prefer men or women more but that really does not worry me as of now. What worries me is that I am a virgin. I do not feel rushed or pressured to have sex, on the contrary, I really want to have sex. I have two problems though: 1) I am very uncomfortable in my body. I am certainly not fat but I definitely have issues with weight fluctuation. 2) I have Trichotillomania which is a genetic disorder that leads to compulsive hair pulling. I take medication for it but I still do have bald spots which has taken a SEVERE toll on my self confidence. These two issues have prevented me from losing my virginity even though I really am dying to have sex. I have so much sexual energy and self-pleasure really only goes so far after a while. Despite what everyone may say about waiting, I think that when it comes to a certain point, holding on to your virginity can be a negative thing. I would really like some advice, any and all would be appreciated.
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reader, HopelessromanticXO +, writes (1 March 2012):
HopelessromanticXO is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your responses. It's really wonderful to hear a little bit of encouragement; your advice has been extremely helpful and reassuring. I appreciate all of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): first you are beautiful even without me seeing you. love yourself and never allow anybody to pull you down. if someone dislike your looks that is his or her problem. Second, a virgin at 18! very brilliant, guess waht am 20 and a virgin too and not even ready to loose that. the headaches in pre-marital sex always make me wonder if it worth the troubles. Hold on to your status girl you are a true gem. a very precious treasure not meant for everybody who thinks you are cute! thumbs up for you
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (25 January 2012):
 holding on to your virginity can be a negative thing. = that is very true. i also wanted to lose it badly but kept prolonging it for stupid reasons and certain things didnt de velop naturally. i suggest u lose it when 1) u lose a bit weight so ull feel more confident 2) ull take care of ur medical issue.
good luck and use protection
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012): ok first im 18 too i i think ur a really strong person to stay a virgin so long... is there anyone in particular u want to then just explain how you are feelin and believe me most guys arent gonna even second guess you wantin to loose it just make sure u can trust them as it is ur first time and they need to be kinda gentle at first.. and the confidence thing i actually found sex boosted my self image as long as its not with a bunch of random guys.. but theres a reason you are the way u are and there is nobody exactly like you so be proud of yourself and if they have a problem with it tell em to keep on moving bc u can do better good luck
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