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writes:I have had a crush on my boyfriend's brother for as long as I have known my boyfriend which is 7 years. I actually told my brother's boyfriend about 3 years into my current relationship. He told me he liked me too but he was with his girlfriend at the time. He told me that if he moved into his own place someday that we could get together then. About a year after that he broke up with his girlfriend. Now he is single in his own place and I now live with my boyfriend. I had asked him if he wanted to go on a hike a few months after his breakup and he said he would take a raincheck. It has now been 3 more years and he is still single and I don't know if he still likes me. He speaks to me like he does. I am wondering if he is waiting for me to lose my boyfriend. I have only lived with my boyfriend for a year (this year). I moved in with him because I had to move out of my parents house and rent is too expensive for me to live by myself. I don't get along with girls very much so I could't live with one. My boyfriend is the best friend I ever had.But wait there is more to this story. My boyfriend is either bisexual or secretly gay, and his brother knows this because I recently found out from my boyfriend that when my boyfriend was in his twenties (he is now 39)his brother walked in on him and another guy. My boyfriend is actually comfortable with me liking his brother in this case, even though he likes me too. But what I don't understand is if his brother knows that my boyfriend leans towards the homosexual pleasures, why doesn't he ask me out? Does anyone have some advice so that his brother and myself can get together. Valentine's Day is coming and I was thinking of writing him a Valentine's letter. We even have compatable astrological signs. I am a gemini and he is a sagittarius.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Okay, the first thing you need to do here is talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you're feeling. You like him yes, but you like him like a brother more than a boyfriend and you love his company, in fact you look to him as your best friend. Then you need to tell him about his brother, the fact you like him and he likes you too. Put the suggestion to him that you would like to continue living with him as platonic "friends" (which means of course you don't share the same bed) and would like to date his brother. Tell him you'll give him some time to think about this and see what he says.
The brother on the otherhand won't want to betray his brother, his loyalties lie with him, and being a sagittarian he hates lies so it isn't in him to be furtive behind his brother's back with you. If your boyfriend's okay with the idea then you can date his brother and everything is above board.
Sagittarians are very easy going and love their freedom so don't rush into this relationship and I certainly wouldn't push him about moving in with him! (I know that's on your mind lol). They like their space AND their privacy so asking him this too soon will only push him away from you. Much better to see how things go and let HIM make the suggestion in time.
Eve
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