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writes:Hi everyone, I met a guy a month back in a business meeting and we exchanged numbers then added eaach other on blackberry. we hit it off instantly given the strong chemistry between us! He lives an hour drive away from me, so we were in touch on a daily basis expressing how much we liked eadch other.we went for coffee once a month back but ever since then he never came to see me not even during the weekends.our chats were only on blackberry messenger.he never called me!!! I was patient the first 2 weeks hoping things might change but around the 3rd week I started wondering what was wrong with him.still I never complained to him. What made things really worse is that I felt that his texts were much less during weekends, 90 percent less! So finally he decided to come and see me after a month of chat then he got stuck in the office and said that he'll keep me updated. He never did. He just sent a kiss and a hug the following day and never showed up that weekend. Long story short, I was annoyed. when he texted on monday I was cold , he asked me what's wrong I told him we'll chat later. Later that evening he texted again and I randomly told him that we shouldn't be friends anymore or whatever is between us, he asked me why, I made a mistake telling him that I have my reasons and I don't want us in touch. The big shock was when he replied: suit yourself and don't disturb anymore. Then he removed me from his bb list. I was so offended that I almost cried. I dropped him a text explaining why I'm upset and wondering when did I ever disturb him and I apologized. No reply since 3 days now. What do you think dear aunts??
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Definitely married.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 November 2011):
 sounds married to me...
you have no need to feel guilty... you don't owe him an explanation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers! I'm sure he's not worth my time as he hasn't showed respect. I was just feeling guilty that I ended the friendship without explaining. And I wonder why hasn't he replied when I apologized? Its not like I offended him.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 I think it is a classic case of 'he's just not that into you' I'm afraid. Men are very simple creatures - when they like a girl they will make a lot of effort to call her, text, arrange dates etc.
If they are hot and cold with their texts/calls, and arrange dates but then bail etc - they are just not that interested. He might like you a bit, but not enough to be long term girlfriend material so he will maybe text you occasionally or maybe meet up for the odd date, but never committ to anything and will mess you around.
There is also a possiblity that he has a girlfriend or is married - with him being very quiet on weekends that is very suspicious.
But either way - he is simply not really interested and never was. Men are very good at talking the talk, so when he was saying how much he liked you etc that was all over text/messenger so he knew he could say something like that without having to follow through, it is a lot easier over the phone to say those things rather than face to face where you have to mean it.
Write it off as a bad experience and move on - he is not worth anymore of your time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (30 November 2011):
 This guy has not shown you any respect or any care for your feelings.
Do not contact him anymore.
Delete him off and see it as a lucky escape because to me he sounds very ignorant and arrogant!
I hope this helps you!
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reader, Abella +, writes (30 November 2011):
 You are way more patient than I would be in the same situation.
He is shallow, unreliable and does not know how to be honest when he communicates.
he may even be married?
Walk away and at double quick time (advice I agreed with when my friend M said the same to another in the same situation)
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