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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My bf and I were friends online through social media for 6 months before meeting. I'm 34 and my sister is 39 and she said I don't know him and disapproved of us meeting then promptly stopped talking to me. The other day I deactivated my Instagram and she messaged me for the first time in 6 months. She accused me of blocking her and said it was a sad way to behave when she had only given me advice to be helpful. That I'm irresponsible being with a man I don't even know. We've been a couple for 6 months now. I've met his family. I've stayed in his home, met his Friends, I know where he works, he showed me where he grew up I'm very happy with him. He treats me like a princess. I told her I hadn't blocked her I'd deactivated my Instagram for a break from social media. That's all I said and she never answered back after. It's left me angry that she only messaged for that. Happily watching my stories even thought that I had moved to another country, accused me of isolating myself and said she wouldn't be my surrogate mum anymore. She stopped talking to me for 10 years and we decided to start talking again five years ago and I saw her three times in five years. Never been to her house. Never met her husband. Never spent a Christmas as adults. Never seen each other on birthdays. She didn't ask if I was ok or how I was doing just attacked me. I feel like she has an inflated ego of what she's done when she has hardly been present my adult life. Aside phone calls where she phoned and I would never get a word in edgeways while she ranted about work and who was annoying her and how her house is so much better than the neighbours and leading her superficial life. I wanted to reply to her about it all but I honestly can't be bothered with conflict as I like a quiet life. Which I have had since she stopped talking. Am I right to be annoyed ? How would anyone else react to someone like this ? She ended it with "you have made your choice and I will leave you with that"
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (9 July 2021):
 In your shoes I would take her offer and run with it. Just because someone is related by blood does not necessarily mean they are a good fit for your life or your well-being. What positivity does she contribute to your life when she chooses to be in contact? Very little judging by your account. You are just a sounding board for her bragging and her complaining. She sounds like a rather toxic person. Her presence in your life does not add anything good to your life, so why worry about her not being in it?
You are happy with your new boyfriend. Lead your life as you see fit and let your sister lead hers similarly. You do not owe her, or anyone, an explanation of your choices in life. Be happy.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 July 2021):
 She seems to think that you should obey her commands as if you are a little kid. My guess is that she is unhappy with her life, that she has little control in her own life thus wanting to control YOUR life.
She also sounds like a very negative person. The kind that doesn't GIVE of herself just takes.
You know what she is like. If you want her in your life, THIS is the person you have to deal with. Accept that.
If you are done, then be done. It's OK.
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