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writes: I am having a really tough time. My boyfriend just broke up with me and I just found out that my uncle passed away and he and I were really close! I am not doing OK. I feel like I have no one to talk to or that no one cares and I'm sick of it. I just want to know how to get through all the crap I'm going through. Any tips?thanks
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (9 July 2006):
 Losing a close family member is an extremely difficult time. I recently lost my grandad, so I know how you're feeling. Why dont you go to his grave, or light a candle for him in church to get to say goodbye properly. It will be hard, but you have to remember he's still in your heart.
As for your boyfriend, he's not worth your pain. Join clubs, go out more and find new, fun people to be with. You'll get over him. He's just another guy.
You have to stop telling yourself no-one cares. There are people who care for you. Keeping things bottled up will only make matter worse. Tell your parents, a close friend or a trustworthy relative. These people want to help you, you just have to beleive it.
Don't feel like this on your own. Refuse to gove up until you find a cure. So fix a smile on your face and let the world know you'll survive!
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reader, Angel Wings +, writes (6 July 2006):
 My dear,
I know of the agony of losing a loved one, rest assured time heals all wounds.
Try to keep yourself occupied on other things to avoid the anguish you are feeling.
God bless you, and keep you safe...
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (5 July 2006):
 Hi
Sometimes our friends and family members find it difficult to approach us when we are down. perhaps it will be better to try and relax a little around them and encourage that closeness. You might get to know that some might really care.
What i do when i am upset is get myself engrossed in alot of activities. I try not to keep myself idle so that those spare thoughts dont come wondering back and upsetting me. You can go out with friends, parties, join social clubs.You could also try getting a new hobby. I enjoy listening to music and sometimes i just plug in my ipod.Sometimes i can just go out and get a hair cut and get my nails treated or go to my lab.
Sometimes things happen for a reason and that is the irony of life. A friend of mine and her Fiance broke up two years ago because of family issues. She went ahead met someone else and is now married to a man who she really loves. At first she never thought she could meet someone like this again having being devastated from her previous relationship. Her ex-fiancee today is no more. Died one year after they broke up from natural causes.She is married now so happy and expecting her first child.
Just dont be discouraged, try to stay strong.
Hope i help a bit. Take care.
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reader, charlie farley +, writes (5 July 2006):
I found that keeping a diary helped me in difficult times. Don't have to write everyday - just when you feel the need. Maybe you can't sleep - write what you feel down. Helps get perspective. When you go back and read it in the future when you have got through what you were feeling (and you will!) you will be shocked.
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