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female
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26-29,
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writes:i with my current bf 'A' for 1 year. He is very good and care for me. I am very happy with him all this while. I am looking forward to marry him. We do have our shares of argueing sometimes and everytime we argued, he will said we are not understanding each other well enough and do you ever thought of it that our relationship will not work out in the future?. i really feel hurt when he asked me those questions. Therefore, he asked me to try out in the relationship for 3 years before come to marry stage. I am already 29 years old and i feel that it is abit too long for me to wait for 3 years. i did discussed with A but he is very firm in his decision. 1 mth ago, my ex'B' managed to contact me. He been calling me everyday. B and i have been together for almost 7 years. We broke up due to his overly possessiveness and ego and my family didnt like him that much. However, B is a faithful bf to me and he treated me good all these years. All i can said is..it was a very painful breakup to me and him. B told me that he has been waiting for me to return to his side for a year. He never give up. He said he is a changed man. He asked me to give him a 2nd chance to prove that he can give me happiness and he really love me and wanted to marry me. the question is, i dont know i still love him (B) or not after a year apart and i feel upset when i know he is suffering alone and waiting for me. Is it i pity him, therefore, i continue talk to him on the phone? Or it is i still have some feeling for him? Or is it my current relationship is in doubt, therefore, i cant see my future clear with A? i am torn between this 2 men, i feel so indecisive. i have to choose one of them and live my life. who shd i choose? A (wait 2-3years) or B (ex bf)? My family and friends said a person character is hard to change. They mean my ex B's character. pls advice.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 The choice is yours in this matter, i think your current boyfriend is asking you to wait longer than you like but is he worth the wait?
The ex is an ex for a reason! you may well be attracted to him for now cause deep down your thinking you don't really want to wait 3 years to be with your man so along comes another man who was your ex, and who is saying he has changed etc: making you think is he for me now?
The choice is yours but i tend to think the 3 yr wait might be worth it in the long run, because you say you love him and look forward to marrying him, whereas no2 there is huge doubts there, people change over a period of time and you don't know what he is really like until you spend time with him, which would mean giving up No1, do you really want to do that? that is the decision you have to make.
Choose wisely because once certain words are said to another they cannot be taking back.
Gina
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