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writes: Hi. For some stupid reason I told my girlfriend I had slept with more girls than I have done. I think I just wanted to impress her at the start of our relationship. But now I just want to be totally honest with her because I really like her. Its been made worse by the fact she started asking me about them and I just made people up. I feel like such and idiot and I hate lying to her. I don’t know weather I should admit lying to her about it and possibly risk our whole relationship. I was thinking I should just put it behind me and not tell her. It doesn’t really have any effect on our relationship and I have never lied to her since. But I have a niggling feeling that our relationship should be built on trust. Would it really be that bad if I kept this little thing secret? What do you think, should I own up? I really think she would finish me if she found out I had lied to her. It is just such a stupid thing as I should have just told her the truth from the start. It would kill me if this ruined what we have.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, samsmith +, writes (27 April 2006):
samsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are probably right. But I really should have told her when she started asking me about them and not just made situations up. I think she will be really annoyed that I had chances to tell her and just didnt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): Tell her straight away!I doubt very much she would finish with you for telling this kind of lie. I think you'd be in a far worse position if you had lied the other way around - that you had been with less people than you actually had!You lied because you wanted to impress her and was embarrised about being too inexperienced. At the time you didn't know her well enough and thought she would have judged you. There's nothing wrong with that.There is absoluetely nothing wrong with having slept with less people than you said you have, and I suspect your girlfriend might even like it that the number is less.Be honest, and get on with having a great, guilt free, relationship.
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