Told my fiancee I cheated, what can I do to help heal the relationship and regain his trust?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I finally did it today. I told my fiancé that I cheated. It was 1year 8 months ago. The guilt and agony was just too much. I was having anxiety attacks and nightmares. Like others have said I thought that I could keep it together and never tell. Just suffer though and hold the lie as my well deserved punishment. The incident occurred with a friend and I have since terminated the relationship. It was a one time only thing with no emotional involvement and to be honest the whole thing was unwanted from the beginning, drugs and alcohol were involved. I have since also stopped drinking and doing drugs. I decided to tell him today because I just couldn’t continue with the toxic lie inside me. I was afraid to continue with our wedding plans and just not tell him. I am so terrified that he will decide to leave or even worse stay and not be able to trust me, look at me, and love me the same way he did this morning before I told him. Was I stupid? Did I do the right thing? It’s too late now. What can I do to help him to heal and fight for the survival of our relationship? I just want to love him forever and erase this horrendous mess.

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