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writes:I go to a university in chicago and im a junior in college. I am about to study abroad this spring and my boyfriend is going to study abroad this fall. We have been together for about a year now and see eachother regularly during the summer. Im wondering if a relationship could survive about four months of not seeing eachother, then seeing eachother a couple of times during winter break and then another four months until summer where we could see eachother regularly (every 1.5-2 weeks). Til senior year where we would see eachother basically everyday. Its something i am concerned about and i know im young and in college and should enjoy life, but i think i could do all that while being in a temporary long distance relationship. I dont know what the future holds, all i know is i want to try and be together for the upcoming year, anything beyond that i cant say for certain. This legitimately worries me, and im just wondering if this is something that is doable, and could survive and work. That it doesnt get too lonely or hard. I have asked family and friends for advice, and it still doesnt suffice. I am curious as to other people's experiences and how they have conquered over LDR. I guess im looking for inspiration more than anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, and it is true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am pessimistic about LDR aswell, perhaps thats why i need the encouragement or inspiration. Thank you for this encouragement or new way to look at it. I think it certainly gives some peace.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 June 2011):
 I agree with SVC.
Normally I am rather pessimistic about LDRs, but in your case it's a temporary separation, for an important reason, and with a set date for its ending. Totally doable,IMO.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2011):
 short term LDR after being together... done for a great reason (schooling) is totally workable...
My LDR experience is a bit different but as long as there is an end date to the LONG DISTANCE part I think you should at least try...
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (20 June 2011):
 HI
I think it is totally doable! abscence makes the heart grow fonder. It's not like you wont see eachother at all, 4 months goes pretty quick especially when your going to be working hard. Writing love letters to eachother would be good too, not emails or texting its not personal enough. And the times you do meet up will be special and exciting , like starting from the first kiss again, all them feelings gushing back every time you meet how wonderful :). Dont focus on the time spent apart focus on the times you will spend together, and when it all goes back to normal, you will have a great stronger relationship.
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