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writes:Dear CupidMy bf wanted to go celebrate newyear in NY. So I have booked tickets and did all the other arrangements which costed me a whole lot of money. Now he is complaining about the flights, hotels everything. I have actually checked with him before going ahead with this plan. I will lose a lot of money if I have canc hasnt el now and he hasn't paid his share yet.This is not first time he doing this, everytimr I get excited about something he does this kind of stuff. This is the third vacation plan I'm cancelling. Its not really fair for him to do this t me. If he doest want to go, he should atleast tell me or he should do the vacation arrangements. He is not helping. What should I do now, I'm so tired of he tampering my vacation plan all the time. Wgneer I try to talk to him , he acts as if I'm making big deal out of nothing. How do I make him see he is hurting me. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): You shouldn't be asking how do YOU make HIM see sense he is hurting you. It should be how can we make YOU see sense that he is a complete ass!
He's done this to you before, so you should have told him if he wants to make plans then he goes ahead and sorts it out for you both because the previous two times he has messed up your hardwork.
You don't cancel, you tell him he is no longer invited and you take someone else who will appreciate having a good time and you need to re-evaluate whether you want to spend your life with someone who is willing to hurt you and lose your money without a second glance. Because you can't change someone, you can't make them not be this selfish person. You deserve more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2014): can't say more than aunty BimBim has said.Do as she says.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 December 2014):
 What was that old saying, Fool me once, shame on you, Fool me twice, shame on me.
After your BF had already caused you to cancel vacation plan twice, you really should have considered the fact he could do it again. If you are likely to lose money cancelling then don't cancel, take you Mom with you instead, or a friend or even somebody you know who has had a rotten run of bad luck all year ....... go and have fun without him.
And when you come back, let him know you are not interested in a man who consistently lets you down and wont communicate.
Have a fantastic holiday and start the new year with a clean sweep, and the first thing you need to sweep out the door is your soon to be ex boyfriend.
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