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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok everyone I am stuck between a rock and a hard place!I'm 21 and I'm going to graduate university in 1 year from now. I've been w/ my boyfriend all university (about 3 years). He has 1 extra year of school left after I finish. When he finishes he would like to move to Florida to where most of his family is from. We are up in Ontario, Canada right now and my mom has already vocally stated I can't move to Florida. She doesn't want me moving so far away but it's really hard to say to her it's my life.She doesn't like my boyfriend anyway because she doesn't trust him and thinks that he will get bored of me and then when we get to Florida he will leave me and I will be stranded down there with nobody.So I don't know what to do. She really dislikes him and threatens things like taking away the money she gives me for university so that I will leave him. My bf says that if that really happens he will give all his money to me so that I can finish since I am the one that's closest to finishing school. However if he does that then he won't be able to finish school until I have graduated and have a job and make money so that he can go back to school.Now my bf can be a little on the immature/ slight controlling side and had a tendency to lie about little irrelevant things, but a few months back i broke things off temporarily to prove to him I won't take that crap from him. He has improved greatly and although I still am cautious and afraid to trust him sometimes I want to go with him.So basically does anyone have any tips for me? Whether it is about how to talk to my mom that I would like to move, or how to make the decision of whether to trust my bf enough to move across the continent with him. I just don't know what to do. We went to Florida on vacation last year and I loved it and didn't want to leave. I know I would love it down there...it's just the 2 factors of my mom not wanting me so far away and saying that if I move that "thats it" aka I cut ties with them apparently, and the other factor of if I should move so far away with someone i can't trust 100%. Any help is appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): if he has lied to you before he WILL lie again about something more than small things.take the hint.
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