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writes:Hello cupids. I felt like writing this question, well more like an asking for help about a stupidity of mine that I did. So after I broke up with my real girlfriend because she was seeing a friend of mine, I was starting to become sentimentalist on blogs or whatever. Then I met this girl on the Internet (biggest mistake), let's call her Alice. She was having problems with her boyfriend too, so I helped her to get over with. Soon as we started to talk and talk and talk I slightly realized that I'm in love with her. So I wanted to have a relationship with her, so yeah, I said what the hell and I said I love her. She said the same. So, we were together...somehow. She sent me pictures with her, she even sent me 2 videos with her....and after 2 months, I was over my head in love with her. She's really amazing compared to all the girls I met in real and on the internet too. I mean, she was really different from others. Then, the next day after we made 2 months, I found out (from one of the pictures she sent) a facebook profile with her photos. Now, seeing that I'm a deadline, I love this girl incredibly much. I cried my eyes out when I saw that, and now she isn't answering me anywhere. I even had planned to visit her in December, but I guess we didn't arrive there. Now, what do you think? I mean, when I showed her that profile, she was like "what the hell, oh my god, who's her". The advantage that she has, are those 2 videos, in pijama with a friend of her. Now, what do you people think? Give me a way to escape from this pain please....cause I'm tired of trying to find someone who can love me and only me and failing again..and again...and again....it hurts. What should I do?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 I think you need to see the real girl, basically. You can still end up liking how she really goods, especially since you fell in love with her already. Love makes blind, as the saying goes.
But she lied to you, and that's really bad. It says something about her personality, about her ability to be honest, about her morals and values. It's a huge character flaw. Don't ignore it, because it is a warning sign. Continue to talk to her if you want to (and if she wants to), but be careful! Do not trust her so easily again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): She is fake. I talked with the real girl with webcam and all that things. So the one I fell in love with lied about her look. I still love her, and I still want to understand her, but the problem is she's not talking at all. The last thing I heard from her was 1 day ago or so when she said at the phone that she's so sorry and she was crying. I really want to understand her, I felt so bad these days when we didn't talk, I stopped caring about me or anyone around me in real because things aren't right between me and her. I don't know what to do. In my mind, I have dreams, but in the dreams there is the real girl and the personality of this girl with who I talk to. Of course I love her personality, but a thing that also mattered to me is that even if that real girl isn't that hot, or she isn't at all, I still find her everytime I watch her a big feeling of sweetness inside of me, she's sweet. Sweet like a candy, not like a sexy girl. Adorable. But what can I do? I'm in love with this girl's personality and attracted to the real one. P.S: I need some help. I hate crying for a girl 24/7. I really don't know what's with me, but it's the first time I feel so sentimentalist.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (27 August 2012):
Ask to see her on a webcam chat then. Maybe things can work out anyhow. I hope she's not lied about her age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): Pfff..i guess you cant find love on this stupid planet anymore :) but i reqlly love her...and is a she cause I called her -the guy who asked the question
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reader, chigirl +, writes (26 August 2012):
She might as well be a man, that's why. And lying about who you are isn't something forgivable, no. Lying is lying. Looks don't matter if she had been honest. But how can he even know that she is a woman? She (or he) betrayed his trust. I do not think this is something that should be easy to forgive.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (26 August 2012):
 So she lied to you about what she looked like? why should this really matter if the rest of her personality is what you fell in love with? I understand she misled you and that's dishonest but why is it unforgivable?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (26 August 2012):
Next time, always ask to see someone on webcam-chat on skype where you can hear each others voices and see each other. This is essential to see if the person you speak to is real or not.
As for now, take this as a lesson learnt. We all learn things the hard way, and we've all wanted to believe someone who we later find out was lying to us.
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