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writes: hi, well at the moment i'm having family problems that i can't talk to anyone about.My mum and Dad had a massive argument a while ago and now they just aren't talking to each other.It's really hard for me and my little sister because we feel alone and they just won't communicate!!!We've tried getting them to talk but it just ends up in an argument.They told me they might get divorced.I feel so alone what should i do?please helpxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): My parents have never divorced but I've lived through their very rough fights and it had scared me very much. Even when I was in college. It's natural to feel a little scared but you have to understand that adults' lives are a little more complex sometimes and people just have to take some serious decisions in their lives.
Maybe you and your sister will have to live through the consequences of your parents' decisions like your father leaving the house, the fact that you might be able to see him less, etc. All those are sad things we might not want but as a mature teenager that you are you must understand is better for them to be separated if they feel they no longer understand each other.
Are you sure you don't have a friend in school who's parents are divorced and you can talk to her about this? What about a school counselor? It's very important for you to talk this with someone who understands because you don't want to be all stressed and fail in school because of this situation.
Remember, adults are not perfect and marriages are difficult sometimes. Lots of kids have faced this situation before you. It might be very difficult now but this is only a phase and it will pass. Its's normal to feel a little scared.
Everyone goes through scary phases in their lives. Even adults. It helps a lot of people to stay firm in their faith to God. Even when things look as if they have no remedy. I think the only thing you can do is trust God and let Him handle the things you can't. When in fear just pray in the name of Jesus if you are a christian.
Psalm 23
A psalm of David.
1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.
2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
6 Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.
God Bless You.
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Hi there. Sometime this happens to Mums and Dads and it's really tough on everyone - everyone in the family. They have got so tangled up in their arguments they don't want to say anymore to each other. Sometimes a period of not talking does help - because while they are not talking, they are thinking. It gives them chance to think things over - to understand what is happening. So don't think that if they are not communicating it is automatically bad - sometimes it is good - sometimes it's not good or bad - it's just a rest.
You ask what can you do? Have you told your Mum and Dad about this website? It certainly helps some people as you can probably see. So you might be able to help them by telling them both about it.
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