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writes:I have been with my bf for about a year and a half, we have been living together for about 7 months. We both want to get married and be happily ever after. However, we've had like this "emotional distance" for about a week, I think mostly on my part.My question is, do you choose to love someone even if you have this downs with him/her? Do you CHOOSE to love in boredom, and no sex and in happiness and sexual experimentation? Are these "normal" stages of a relationship to which you just stick to. Or is it supposed to be different?Any help, appreciated. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies! I think, after a lot of thought on the matter, last night I decided to do something nice for both of us. I cleaned up, I rented a movie and bought him pop corn. We saw this movie (horribly bad by the way), but we were cuddling and we went to bed early and had a really good time. I think it helped a lot we were able to just have a quite evening... thank you!
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 its only been going on for a week so its not like its completely salvageable and you cant remember what you were like back then.
whats been going on with you over the last week? have you had stress at work? family issues? maybe its just time of the month hormones?
i dont think its worth worrying that your relationship is on the skids unless you have been feeling like you're missing out on something and wonddering if you would be happier single
brooke
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
 Love comes in stages. The following site breaks it down in simple terms.http://www.singlescafe.net/stages.html
Sex can be an expression of love, between people that are emotionally intimate. Sex can be an empty, carnal act. I think, that in the best situation, good sex moves around on the spectrum between those two points. We're human. We cannot sustain any level of anything, consistently. Once you embrace that, it's part of the fun. Anyway, whatever happens, it's up to the people involved. No one person can define the true meaning of good sex or love or anything, that is shared with another. One person can define it for him/herself, but not for the other. Also, keep in mind, that it is always changing ... it's dynamic ... because people are always changing (no matter how much some resist).
People like to say that if it's true love, it will last forever. No. That's just a lovely little fairy tale. I'm not saying that it cannot last forever ... I am saying that true love between two people can (and does) end, because people grow and change (by design) and often times, unfortunately, true love cannot survive the change. That is why love is so precious. That is why it is worth working for. But no matter what those motivational speakers would like you to pay them to hear, it does take two.
Facing the fear is part of the deal. Best wishes.
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