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The thought of her having sex with another man gets me depressed...can we ever have normal sex again??

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Question - (24 January 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 January 2008)
A male Slovenia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi there aunts!

I have a problem. Me and my girlfriend (2 years an a half) had a relationship breakdown quite some time ago. She went to another guy and she told me that she used the moment when she was weak and kissed her. She hinted that they had sex but when I asked her if they did she said that they didn't.

I forgave her and we went on with our lives. The problem is that I still think that they did have sex because why would she hint on it if it didn't happen? Sometimes when we have sex I just can't help thinking about it and due to it I loose my erection and get depressed. Can I ever have normal sex with her again? I don't want to talk to her about it because she isn't proud of what she did either and it torments her as much as it torments me. I just want a way to get it out of my head. Please help!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008):

It seems like you are very much in love with her.She might have had sex with the other guy but still she favoured you over him. You could tell that she isnot proud of what she did!So if you really love her (and i am sure you do),you let it go and start a fresh start together. She is at least worth it.Good luck to you both.

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A female reader, speedcat United States +, writes (26 January 2008):

getting over it all depends on you,,,If you trully love this girl and wanna make it work then you really need to put it behind you,,if you cant then you need to move on. Maybe it would help if she was more honest with you, she at least owes you that!!!!!! Sit her down and tell her that you need to hear the truth from her, tell her that this secret is ruining your relationship with her and if she wants to work it out with you she better start off by being honest and if she cant speak openly about it, then maybe you should part ways.

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