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writes:well i'm 19 years old and i'm really scared of being committed to another person i mean the thought of it scares me..i mean i've been with lots of girls during high school but just made out with them or mess around but i never wanted to settle down in a relationship with them, i did at times - but something was holding me back and i need help Reply to this Question
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Only commit when it feels right.
Out of three teenage friends, one got married at 21.
I was 28 before I felt comfortable.
My other friend was 35.
Put it to the back of your mind and forget it. When the time is right, you'll find the matter decides itself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I think you are just not ready to be in a committed relationship mostly because you are very young and you don't really know who you are yet or what kind of girl you would want to settle down with.
If it concerns you, you will one day meet a very special woman and you might actually fall in love...when that happens the first step is to ask her to date only you, an exclusive relationship. That way you can build trust and get to know each other....commitment is really talking about making it a forever relationship, not all exclusive dating relationships have to end in commitment, nor should they, but it is a great way to treat someone with love and respect while you are dating them, especially if you are sexually intimate.....as there can be consequences to that intimacy, like falling in love, and even an unplanned pregnancy, so it has to be with someone you love....so that you know what ever happens you can trust that person to do the right thing.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (9 March 2008):
 I think any man of your age would feel scared too, committment is something that you need to be ready for and right now it doesn't sound like you want that.
Dating someone is not committment, living with them or getting married is and you are just not ready, that is normal so don't keep on punishing yourself right now. You are no different to lots of guys your age so you will know when the time is right or you may be someone who has to find themselves first and that is still very normal.
Having a child with someone is enormous so always be careful with contraception and never leave it down to the girl to be the responsible one. Always make sure you have condoms and then things like little ones do not make an appearance unless you are extremely unlucky or something.
At the end of the day you don't need help but you just need to let yourself grow up and that is fine so just take it one year at a time and that is OK.
Some men grow up later than others and girls are always ahead of boys/men as they have more to deal with at a younger age normally i.e. periods etc. Just give yourself time OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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