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writes:Hi,I am 21 and in my first year at university. I have been with my bf for about 7 months and things over the last month or so havent been the best. Found him keeping in contact with ex's and lying about it etc. I have found out today that I am pregnant though :/ My last period was about six weeks ago. I am so confused as what to do. If i knew me and my bf were in a really good trusting relationship I would probably consider keeping it. But im too young and how would I cope with a kid during iniversity... Anyone else out there gone through something like this??? :/ :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Look at your life right now, you are at university, you have a boyfriend who well does not sound very loyal. You need make the right choice for YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): While I've not been in your exact position, I do agree that in your reasoning that you are too young and how difficult it would be to deal with children while attending a university. Personally, I believe in pro-choice, but the real question is what are you comfortable doing? As always, there are many options out there for young women (we all know them - adoption, abortion, etc.). The important thing is for you do look within yourself and decide what is best for you considering the situation. You may ask your family about it if you are comfortable with telling them, although if you decide any option besides abortion they will eventually find out, so it is best to let them know and get their advice as well.If you are planning to abort, you need to decide asap, as the longer you wait the riskier the procedure will be. If you plan to keep the baby or give it up to adoption, you need to go see a doctor and start appropriate supplements to ensure the best health for you and your child. I wish you the best of luck in your decision - I know it is a difficult one, but it is important to do what is best for you and not let overly-pushy advocates of certain options dictate your choice. Take care.
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reader, prncssGrace  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Im not now, but I definitely did. I was pregnant at 18 and with a bf who was just not desirable. I thought of keeping it as well. I went over all options. In the end I terminated because I knew I couldnt be a mum at that time and provide the life the baby should have. And at 18, I wanted to be ME! Which feels selfish, but it isn't. Its what you're supposed to do. Your bf sounds immature and young and not like someone who is ready to be in a committed relationship. Something like this could change him, but its age.This is an extremely hard moment in your life and I feel for you. The only thing I can say is there is NO wrong decision. You just have to figure out whats right for you.
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