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writes:So I met this guy on holiday. He's so sweet, funny, amazing and basically everything I ever dreamed of. I have his number and he has recently gone back home. I miss him already. He lives 4 hours away from me by car. Can long distance ever work? Has anyone else been through this? If so, please help. I really like him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Its hard at your age to keep a long distance relationship running. The thing is you are probably two young to drive and therefore how are you going to spend time together getting to know each other? Sure you could have an online relationship.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (4 April 2017):
 They can work, but rarely at your age. Then again, most relationships don't last at your age and that's how it should be.
You can try it, but it can hurt a lot. Either way, relationships shouldn't be physical, whether long distance or not, so that shouldn't be an issue.
I wouldn't advise it because it usually turns into fantasy, particularly when you're too young to visit frequently.
How old are you both? If he's more than a year older than you, definitely don't talk to him in a flirty/relationship way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2017): There's not much point trying to be anything other than friends with a distance like that. It would be hard for adults who actually drive to have a relationship when you're 4 hours apart, but at your age it's just best to be friends and concentrate on your own life for a bit longer. Then no one gets upset if you meet someone in your own area but there's no reason not to stay in contact with each other!
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (4 April 2017):
 At your age long distance is recommended. When I was your age I had several long distance relationships. of course back then we had to wait weeks for physical mail. now there are social media, texting video messaging, and so on.
As a person who has been there and succeeded, I have some most basic advice. Be positive cheerful and inspiring in your communications. Long distance relationship lack physical intimacy. If you spend a lot of time talking about, or even just thinking about the physical intimacy you are missing it will only make it harder and the relationship will die. Eventually someone will have to move closer. or the relationship will fizzle and die. Like most relationships at your age do.
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reader, mad stacey +, writes (4 April 2017):
I have myself been in a LDR and it can work as long as both people want it to work its hard work ... So from the start you need to be honest with each other ...when can you see each other?? How often?? Dont just meet up once a wk for sex as that's not a relationship ... Could one of you move if things got serious??? You carnt work indefinitely 4hrs away.. You could meet in the middle sometimes for lunch so its a proper date ...then stay over sometimes...but try seeing each other twice a wk or its not a relationship....if u carnt make time for each other dont start anything its just wasting your time ..good luck.
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