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The connection isn't there the way it was with my ex. What should I do?

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Question - (25 November 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2007)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been with a guy for 2 years and a lot of the time he can treat me quite badly and can be very selfish but the connection we have is unbeleivable. We click and understand each other so well but after the two years together the way he would treat me started over coming the feelings.

I met a guy through work who showed interest and we got along really well. He was going to Europe for a year and the week before he left we spent everyday together going out for drinks, going for rides on his motorbike and just seeing each other. By the end of the week the interest and the way this guy treated me just felt so good I really thought I'd fallen for him and he did for me. After he had been in England for a week I broke up with my boyfriend because I was still thinking about this guy and after 3 weeks in Europe he came back early to be with me.

He has been back 3 weeks now and I'm starting to realise it may have been a mistake... he is a nice guy, treats me great, is really great guy but the connection I had with my ex is just not there with this guy and it's at a point now where I like to see him out but when we are alone I feel really uncomfortable with him. I think my ex would get back with me if I wanted to but im just torn.. Do I stick it out with this guy in the hopes that my feelings eventually grow for him or do I go back to having that connection with my ex despite how unhappy I was at times with him... and knowing that he will always be the way he is...

Any advice or similar experiences would help. The part that makes it worse is that he has come back from his holiday for me so I just feel terrible.

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A female reader, Megan Deetes United Kingdom +, writes (26 November 2007):

Megan Deetes agony aunttry and cheer up :) despite whats going on- it sounds to me although you need to meet some completley new guys altogther, after all you can't help it if you no longer have feelings for this guy but do you really want to go back to the way you were with your ex? You need to look at the outcomes of both situations and decide which you'd be most comfotable with facing or you can always go and find other guys :) good luck :) xxxxx

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A female reader, muffy United States +, writes (25 November 2007):

muffy agony auntif your uncomfortable with a guy,then its time to say bye.if you dont have a good connection with him then why be with him because youll just be wasting your time.and hunny,you cant make your feelings grow to like anybody.if hes not the right guy ,then hes not the right guy.and if you really want your ex back,then let him know.but dont be surprised if he doesnt want to get back together.ok.

i hope i helped

love and kisses

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