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writes:Hi allI'm a good decent guy. I treat people like I want to be treated and I live my life always thinking about others and caring for them.I recently found out my gf has been cheating on me from the start of our relationship plus shes into drugs and seeing a satanist guy she calls a "friend".I have never cheated on someone in my life and I have never been cheated on until now. Now I fear for my life and health so I'm going for blood tests because I don't know if she has STD.The bible says turn the cheek when someone hits you, but enough is enough, I want my own revenge. How can I cause her pain??? Emotionally? The pain she has caused me is unthinkable because I actually loved her, and she's probably slutting around not giving a damn about me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): Agneeman is so funny. Yes, there are guys who dont cheat in Mzansi, i count myself as one of them.
As for you my man, am sorry for your pain, but am sure you ve learnt a lesson from this and will be more careful next time around.
Keep being the good guy that u are, there are just a few like us and in most cases, we feel under appreciated, but let it not change you, you ll find someone that deserves u some day.
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (2 June 2012):
 I think you should just get your stuff and leave with as little dialogue as possible. She's in her twenties, if she's not on the right track, let her deal with that by herself. Telling her parents about loaded aspects of her life like drugs will complicate things for her, and since you where asking for revenge initially, I'm inclined to assume that's what you're counting on. If you were planning so stay with her, then i would be slightly more in favor of talking to her parents, but not as things stand. She did a terrible thing, I'll grant you that, but now she's out of your life; give her the respect of staying out of hers too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your posts guys really appreciate it allot. I don't wanna tell you all the things she did to me because I'm to ashamed of it. But life can't be that easy for her.
Another problem is she still has some of my belongings that I must fetch from her and I want to look her in the face and tell her I known she was unfaithful. I thought of warning her parents that there daughter is not on the right track instead of "hurtful revenge". What's your guys thought on that?
@ agenee, 'n boerseun het nog maniere;) or your problibly looking for the wrong type of guy...
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reader, Arete  +, writes (1 June 2012):
I know it's hard to stand by when someone has wronged you, but trying to "get revenge" on this girl will only sink you to her level. It's pretty clear from what you have posted that she's not on a good path in life, and sooner or later the drug use and casual sex will come back to bite her without you having to do anything. In the meantime, drop her like a hot potato if you haven't already and then ignore her completely. Don't give her the satisfaction of an emotional reaction from you. Walk away from her as if she meant nothing and let her implode on her own. I promise you, it will happen. Best of luck.
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reader, Starmonster888 +, writes (1 June 2012):
I know you're hurting Mister, but we're not in the revenge business here , and I don't think you should be either. Jesus was pretty on the mark with the "turn the other cheek" strategy but, without discrediting him, might I suggest another? Simply walk away. She has wronged you, revenge is fruitless, so walk away and never let her wrong you again. Learn from the experience and move on.
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reader, agneeman +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I am so so sorry! This sucks. It is first class kak! 1) Leave her! That is the best thing you can do. Don't answer her calls, don't respond to her, nothing. Let everything you do show her a big voetsek!2) take time out for you. Get a pastor to talk to, punch a pillow, have a dop with the okes... Take care of the health, go to the bushveld... Whatever you need to do to get the anger out3) Learn from this. Remember the pain. Decide not ever to do this to some woman who doesn't deserve it. Figure out what the signs were and make sure you don't easily land yourself in this situation again. 4) Move on and live your life in such a way, that if she ever runs into you, she will kick herself for being an idiot. That is pretty much the worst revenge... A few years from now when Slutty-boom-boom walks into you and your beautiful pregnant wife at the local Checkers and you couldn't even be bothered while she realises she could have had that, but cocked it up....You are right, she is a slut and doesn't deserve a guy like you. I wish I could have had one, I didn't think they existed in this country... An oke that doesn't cheat? In SA??? Shoe!Anyway, I just want to congratulate you. I know it doesn't see it now, but you are luck. You have just had your eyes opened ( before doing something stupid like marrying her )and now you have the chance to find a real flower that deserves you, but first, time to heal.Good luck
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