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writes:I read recently that testosterone builds for 7-10 days if you don't ejaculate during that period before it begins to drop off. Has anyone experimented with only ejaculating every 7-10 days? My wife and I don't have sex very often anymore, and I know part of the problem is that I've gotten used to it and masturbate every few days. I had been hoping to change the status quo in our marriage, but I'm still finding convenient excuses to not initiate sex. So I'm trying to hold off for at least 7 days and I am finding that I am much more apt to initiate sex when I otherwise might have not. But that has its drawbacks as well - for example if she is seeming very tired or had a bad day I usually wouldn't think twice of trying to have sex but now since I'm so much more motivated, I am more likely to try. But I'm also more likely to get rejected and more likely to be considered a heel. Just wondering if anyone else tries to go longer than their body feels is perfectly comfortable, in an attempt to have a better "real life" sex life and how you worked through the challenges.
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reader, mikeybr +, writes (14 July 2012):
You need to talk to her to find out how often she would like to have sex. I know what you mean about asking at the wrong time (believe me) haha. But if you're not intimate anymore things can start to go downhill in the marriage.
This happened to me and finally I told her we need to talk and had a long discussion. Things changed and now we try to arrange a "date night" so we both know when to look forward to it. This is the best way IMO because if you hold out several days and have a serious need to be with her BUT she's not in the mood, this can lead to anger and resentment (on either side). So discuss your needs......
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 if you haven't ejaculated for 3 days you should be full strength or good enough. If you haven't ejaculated for 7 days you're going to be very disappointed if she says no which is going to happen at least 1/2 the time because women don't place such importance on sex. go back to your previous behaviour pattern and everyone will be happy.
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