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writes:I was told by a one of my guy friends that I would be much more attractive if I had darker skin. I have naturally light blonde hair and blue eyes and my skin is very fair. I am not white and pale like a ghost but I am not tan either. He told me I need to go tanning at a salon, I really don't wanna do that. He tells me that to me a lot, it seems to really matter to him.Ever since he told me that, I am really self conscious about the way I look. I live in florida and everyone has a tan. Granted a lot of people with naturally tan skin live down here but still. So I am just wondering, do you think guys like tan blondes better than fair blondes? I am just curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): fair skin has traditionally been preferred in many cultures for two reasons: evolution and social status. from an evolutionary perspect, darker skin can hide imperfections and potential diseases and dangers in a mate therefore humans have evolved to prefer fair or more "honest" skin. also historically fair skin meant that you had the luxury of staying indoors as opposed to being an outdoor laborer and therefore had a higher social status. however, sometimes in the 1920s or after, tanned skin became more in fashion as a symbol of seaside bathing and luxury. today it's sort of a mixed bag depending on personal preference, however tan skin definitely seems to dominate american pop culture. french people on the other hand tend to stay very pale, italians value a sunkissed look. it just depends on where you are really.i am a darker blond with light olive skin... i still can burn a little but i tan if i wear a light spf... i enjoy being tan because it makes my skin look more flawless and even... i sun a little but less now that i am in my mid twenties... i recommend using sunless tanners in moderation and getting a little sun for the vitamin D... but in the end like someone else said, there are people out there who both appreciate fairness and tanness.hope this helps!!!
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Dont worry about what your friend said. Do what YOU think looks good. If you like being tan, then tan. If you like your skin fair then stay fair. It doesnt matter what others think, what matters is what you think. As some say the most attractive women is the one who believes she's attractive or something like that.
Anyways, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Tanning is like makeup or cosmetic surgery stuff. A little can be good but don't overdo it. It's better to have too little than too much.
And if you do it with real UV rays, it will age you faster. Most of the chronic tanners started in their high school years, and you can really start to see the difference between the chronic tanners and the chronically pale by the mid/late 20s.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 One of my drama teachers used to say, "There is butter for every bread" (it was a guy, btw).
Some guys would totally dig fair blondes.
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reader, SceneXaddicted +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Honestly, I have seen tan blonds. As long as its not over done, it doesn't look bad. It does tend to look unnatural however, kinda like a blond Asian. Your personal image should only matter to you. I know that probably sounds like I'm an old 60 yr old or something, but I'm 18. A person can only be happy if they are happy with themselves. Personal acceptance is key to happiness. If someone is only judging you on your appearance, than they are only looking at your appearance.
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