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writes:Okay so theres this girl that i just met and she likes me and i think shes kinda cute but my friends dont they were making fun of her really bad even though i kinda liked her i admit shes not my usual type shes short and not as thin as my usual girls and her face is kinda wierd and she talks funny but still for some odd reason im attracted to her wich is different than my usual tall and blonde girlfriends but i know that if i date her my friends are going to really make fun of not me but the relationship and knowing her i dont really want her to get made fun of more than she must already but if we date i will stand up for her but what do u guys think i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 She's going to be in a relationship with you, not your friends, they have no say in what type of girl you go for.
Kudos to you for not being as shallow as the majority of people today and going for someone that you like the personality of rather than dating based on looks.
Go for it buddy, make this chick happy and tell your friends where to stick it if they aren't happy with your decision.
Good luck man!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2011):
 IF you like her and she likes you then go for it and your friends can suck it up...
just keep her from them till you are ready to sing her praises... and when you do bring her around WARN them that you will NOT tolerate any childish behavior from them and if they start... Take your lady's hand and LEAVE...
I'm going through something right now... my close friends who I've been friends with for 7 years are now telling me that my current bf (of 7 months) is not acceptable to them and I will have to choose them or him. I told them "no brainer" and I picked him.... they stopped making me choose....
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reader, galdegir  +, writes (20 June 2011):
[Anonymous said: I think a real man wouldn't care for his mates' approval of his girlfriend. Sure, it's fun to be walking around with a girl that turns heads, but what are you more interested in -- a woman you approve of, or a woman others approve of?
Don't be so childish.]
Spot on brother. OP how old are you 26-29 or a 17yr pup? At your age if your interested in a woman you shouldnt be seeking approval of the woman you date if your friends have a problem with it they aren't your friends.
And if she means that much to you you'd tell these materialistic little boys to kindly pog mo thoin and f**k off if they did pick on her if you end up in a relationship with her. Mind any decent man if he truly interested would've backed her up minute your own friends started making fun of her.
Keep allowing friends to pick your girls for you and you'll end up with grief.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): I think a real man wouldn't care for his mates' approval of his girlfriend. Sure, it's fun to be walking around with a girl that turns heads, but what are you more interested in -- a woman you approve of, or a woman others approve of?
Don't be so childish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): Honestly, if you like this girl, ask her out, and see how it goes. If it goes well and you get to the meeting your friends stage, tell them politely to F**k off with their opinions. If she makes you happy, and you enjoy dating eachother its really none of your friend's business, and they need to grow up. Your age says that youre 26-29. That is much more than old enough to know better than to make fun of anyone. Dont let this stop you from being with someone who makes you happy. I know way too many guys who have even married the girl who "looks" right, and are horribly unhappy and it all ends in tears... so go for the girl who makes you happy and secure and who you feel the same about! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): If you really like this girl then go for it, it doesnt matter what your friends think ! and going out with her will show them that your not shallow and you like her for who she is and not just what she looks like.
Stand up for her and tell them that you like her and your going to go for it. If they are true friends they will keep their opinions to themselves and wish you luck.
Hope it all goes well, good luck :)
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reader, SMARTERthaniappear +, writes (19 June 2011):
 Your SO-CALLED FRIENDS are NOT TRUE FRIENDS if they would make fun of YOUR girlfriend. If they were true friends, they'd back off and accept your choices in life. If she's been bullied I'm sure she would like to have a boyfriend to comfort her and love her. If you are really interested in her become friends with her and get your friends to stop picking on her. Invite her out with you and your friends to show that you aren't ambarrassed to have her around. Than if you still find interest in her, ask her out =)
I HOPE I HELPED ^.^
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): This is very sweet! Maybe dating her, will open your friend's eyes and realize that...she can be really awesome, even if she isn't type of girls you and your friend go after.
If these guys are your TRUE friends, have a sit down with them. Tell them that she is totally awesome, cool, and you really like her. Make sure to be firm with them, and say "Look-if you are going to make fun of her or this relationship...do it when ya'll are alone. But not infront of me, or her." If they can't respect your wishes, then you need to evaulate your type of friends.
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reader, Greasy  +, writes (19 June 2011):
First, I think you should punctuate your sentences. Sorry, but I had to get that out there.
And now to your question:
Date her, and to H3ll with what your friends think/say. True friends will, in the end, respect your happiness. If they don't, well, that's their problem and not yours.
Also, you never know - she might be far more caring than the gorgeous symmetrical normal-talking people you usually date simply because she's hasn't become accustomed to taking male attention for granted. I say go find out what your "odd reason" for your attraction is, and in doing so maybe find out about more about yourself with her help.
I'm jealous, damnit. All the best!
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