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writes: I met someone online and we seem to have alot in common - we both think each other is attractive and I have given him my number to call me. He has called but his voice sounds effeminate! I don't know what to think.I have gay friends and I know plenty of people who are bi- he says he is straight but how do I know for sure?Am I overreacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Even if he is straight, it seems you have found something about him you don't like. A person's voice is very important, you would be hearing it A LOT, if you were in a relationship with him.
I also find it a turn off when a man sounds like a woman. I used to like this guy I'd seen around, he was super cute, very handsome and masculine looking. One day I overheard him talking to somebody, wow, I was shocked, his voice was so girly. That definitely changed the way I saw him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Ask yourself why a Gay man, a grown adult, would purposely chat up a straight woman in view of meeting and dating her?
Exactly, he wouldnt.
If you do not want to meet him purely because of his voice, then you don't have to.
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reader, angeleena  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 I have exactly the same problem. the guy i am dating online finally called me and what i heard from the other side is a voice i was so less expecting. but it doesn't make him a gay. meet up with him,talk and when you two get closer you will know for sure what his sexual orientation is because it would be way too rude to ask,isn't it?? all the best..
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 April 2012):
 The way someone's voice sounds has nothing to do with their sexual orientation. Why would he be meeting women online if he was gay (as opposed to meeting men)?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 Did you get turned off by his voice? Can you live with that voice? Justin Timberlake and Justin Bieber sound effeminate too but girls like them for a reason. This is very new, so it will be inappropriate to ask him what turns him on, has he been with men and what he likes to do in the bedroom. You have to talk about other stuff and then kind of ease into the taboo subject. Make some jokes that could be innuendo. You can also ask about his past relationships. I guess the only way you will know is if you meet him in a public place he only looks at you and not at other men. Later if you get intimate you see how he responds to you. Right now we are just as clueless as you are.
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reader, traeumerin242 +, writes (24 April 2012):
You're overreacting for sure. If he says he's straight, he's not gay. He may be bi, but that shouldn't mean anything if he's looking for a relationship with you. Try getting together with him in person. It may be that his voice is much different there than it is over the phone. See where that takes you.
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