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writes: Hie all of you. I do hope you can help. I have a girlfriend and we had sex and something went wrong and now she's pregnant. I can't marry her coz I'm afraid of my parents and what they'll say. They surely wont approve and neither will her parents approve of it. They might throw her out of the house. What should I do? I know it's not a sexual question but it's really stressing me out.Thanks in advance....Ex-Q Reply to this Question
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reader, MyBeautifulRuin +, writes (22 July 2005):
get your girlfriend to go to the GP. Go with her for support if she needs/wants it! they can give you advice on all the options you now have. You wont have to marry, andit sounds as if you aren't ready yet, so dont be forced into it! that would just cause more problems! the baby doesnt have to be kept butthere are lots of options if you go to the GP quickly. worrying will make everything worse, so just talk to your girlfriend, and everything will work out. good luck, hope i helped. xxx
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reader, becky05 +, writes (13 July 2005):
Get your girlfriend to go to her GP or family planning clinic for advice, then, she will have to tell her parents, either alone or with you, if she chooses.You will have to cope with whatever reaction comes from the news of the pregnancy but dont get pushed into marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2005): You need to ring up a pregnancy counselling line, right now, today. Grab a phone book and look in the local government pages. There are services for people in your situation.Get your girlfriend to ring up and talk with them. Be there with her. Find out what your options are. Maybe in this case you'll decide that abortion is best for you two. Maybe she'll keep it or adopt it to some family who want a baby. Maybe there are other options. It's time for you to talk about it and find out.You sound young and getting married is not a valid solution to this problem. Even if you do, you're still a couple of kids -- with a baby on the way. How will you take care of it? No, don't head down the marriage track, just because you don't know what else to do. Having a child is a terrible strain, even on established relationships, with adults. Talk with your girlfriend today about what you both want. Then speak to a woman's counsellor (on the phone) about what options you have. It's confidential and you don't have to tell your parents. But please do SOMETHING and do it right away. Time is not your friend.I wish you strength.
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