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writes: I'm married. My husband cheated three times that I know of. The first time left me with so much of wounds. Because of this I am not doing what I should like making love and showing love. That's why he cheated again. Now we are at a point that we are more like friends. I love him very much he says he loves me but I never let go of the past. He has suggested a time out. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 If it were me I'd give him a PERMANENT time out. He has cheated on you three times? Well in baseball you know what that means. Of course you know best if this relationship has any chance of providing you any happiness but from my view point it doesn't look very likely. I suggest you remain friends for the son's benefit but you need to move on and find a man with whom you can have a trusting, enjoyable, and loving relationship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2006): If your husband believes that he was somehow justified in cheating on you because you were obviously hurting and withdrew from him, then he is cruel and insensitive. He should have put his time and energy into repairing his relationship with you, and regaining your trust. Instead, he pursued other women. I understand that it is hard to let go when you love someone, but does he deserve your love? Take time out, and consider how you might move on. How many times can he break your heart before you say enough? I think you will be surprised by your own strength. Good luck and best wishes,
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (25 July 2006):
 I think a time out is good in this case because you haven't given yourself ample time to heal fully. If you love him like you say you do and want to stick it out you need to sort out your feelings and try to make a fresh start. If not you will only end up hurting yourself more. You have to think of yourself now. He can't be your concern. Life is to short to waste it away worrying about this. Use your time wisely and get your self together and go at it again. Thats if you think this relationship is worth saving. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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