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writes:Okay. Im from a family where parents always quarrel with one another, and there s nothing i can do about it. So ive been looking at my future alone the other day and something just came up in my mind that i cant have a family because having a family s tough (picturing my mom), il end up having a husband who cant agree with me. I got pretty much confident with my decision. The next day i told my friend about it and she laughed at me and said i cant be serious m still young to think such things, i should just enjoy life when i still can. Do you think she was right and i am wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Some people repeat their parents' lives while others rebel against whatever their parents' did and become totally the opposite. You can make anything a learning experience. Couples can argue day in and day out. Behind the bedroom doors they could be making up, being passionate. You want a balance in a relationship. You don't want it to be too volatile but you don't want lack of passion either. Your parents are this way right now but maybe there will be events that could change their ways, a blessing in disguise. They might one day decide they are tired of fighting and choose a better way to relate, such as using humor when there's tension. Maybe you could express yourself to your parents. They will be very sad that their arguments caused you to give up on dating, a chance of happiness with a man, and they will reflect on themselves. You could be their inspiration to be better models.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Your friends right in a way because you are still young and sometimes you can decide things for yourself that later change...
Remember just because your parents have a volatile relationship it doesnt mean you yourself will have the same type of relationship with a man.
Men are all different and if you find a compatible one there is no reason to argue.
It doesnt have to be that way, alot of people are content with their relationships.
Goodluck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Nobody is right or wrong here. But you are still young, and just because your parents argue at the moment and you see that marriage is hard, some day you might meet a man who treats you well and you both get on great, you might fall in love and change your mind that you would like a family. Don't base your own life on your parents. Everyone's life is different. Again maybe you will never settle down. Nobody knows what the future will hold so just enjoy life and take what comes your way.
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