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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend cheated on me the other day. But...i did the same to him... i cheated with an ex. He knows, i told him, and he told me he cheated on me. We're being honest with each other, which he really appreciates. But he said he was upset and mad that i cheated, but since he did it too, we're "even-steven" and that we're "all cool"...But I dont know if that means everything's cool and he won't do it again. I know i wont...But...I just wanna be sure he's not gonna... Can anyone help?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 HiYou need to know that 2 wrongs defintely dont make a right.Your relationship needs some mending now and you should both work on the trust factor. Try to get your relationship back on track then you wouldnt feel insecure. You should speak to your bf about this and get the answers from him. Let him tell you whether he would do it again or not.Hope this helpsRegards, mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Nope not cool, not even, messed up. You just took one mistrust and by doing the same made it where you now have a relationship which neither person can be trusted. Took one issue and made it into two separate issues. Can you trust him because he cheated. Probably not, because you came on here to ask the question. Can he trust you because you cheated, all though he didn't ask the question, I bet he is thinking the same things as you are.
Honesty is important, but isn't being faithful part of honesty. So what your saying is he's happy you are willing to be honest about not being honest. What should he believe. If you're being honest about being dishonest, should he listen to the dishonest you or the honest you.
What he did was wrong, the two of you could have ended it or worked through it, but instead you felt like getting back by doing wrong too. So neither one of you respect the other person or the relationship you're in.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (9 September 2007):
I am agreeing with the first response. You sound like the kind of couple that instead of working out problems will just try to get even with each other in a hurtful way. I guess you could rtry it and see if it really is cool, but it may not be. Just because you're even doesn't mean you're in a good place. Work through it and the reason why he cheated in the first place and see where it goes. I don't know how long you've been going out, but I'm guessing you may need a break from each other at the very least.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (9 September 2007):
 Oh dear Oh dear, what a very childish way to go about your relationship, i think it may be best if you both go your own seperate ways and have a little fun as you are both clearly not ready to settle into a relationship yet.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): I don't know. With all this cheating I really don't think your realtionship is going to go very far, anyway.
You both already crossed the line. And neither of you will ever really love each other or respect each other as much as you could have if you both had been loving and faithful.
I don't think either of you really love each other to begin with. If you did, no cheating would have happened at all.
Um. Yeah he might cheat again. And you might too. You guys have no respect for each other and I don't see how you love each other after all that you have done. So yes, I think cheating will happen again. It seems to be the norm here.
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