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writes:Hello. I'm new here and I feel a bit pathetic posting this, but I wonder if anyone can help me.I've been single for almost a year now after coming out of a serious relationship with a girl for 2 years. I can't believe I've been single for half the time I was with her. I've not been with anybody after her and though I'm becoming adjusted to the sad truth, it is frustrating that I have not been with anyone for so long. I miss having my girlfriend around. I miss her company, having someone to love, and unfortunately, physical side of it. It's been nearly a year, and in that time, I've only been able to pleasure myself. It makes me feel like trash. Instead of finding somebody, getting to know them, fall in love and then have Sex with them, all I do is masturbate!! It makes me feel PATHETIC... but I've got needs.What can I do? Love isn't coming my way, so I'm reduced to what I'm doing. Is there any way around it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers. Particuarly Rey, since your answer was the only answer that wasn't anonymous (not that I have a problem with that). The most recent anon answer was also very good. I guess I'm not completely over my ex, which isn't helping. Still, the reasurance that people understand what I'm feeling is doing me some good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): I think i understand what you're going thru. I dont know if i got u right but it seems like u not completely over this chick yet and thats the first thing u should do. get over her! then go out chill with ur friends, go to places when you can meet people, socialize, cute girls, pretty girls, not so pretty girls - just socialize with everyone if they're not ur type they might actually know someone who could be the one for you, what ever you do remember that u have to feel good about it whether its meeting new people, hangin out with old friends, or masturbating by urself - it has got to feel good. Dont beat urself down for it. After all whats life all about if it doesn't feel good right? Hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): my beating has no relationship to whether or not I have a girlfriend at the time.
It's like eating meals. I might have more fun eating dinner with her, but if she's not around I'm not gonna wait all week or feel bad about eating alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): I don't look at sex as a need. If it makes you feel like trash, don't do it. Find other ways to occupy your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Don't feel bad its normal I'm a female and I do my own thing and I have a man! He doesn't like to have sex 2 times a day like me so sometimes I have to take care of myself with my toy!!! Its normal and until you get a female handle it yourself! Its ok!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Don't feel bad its normal I'm a female and I do my own thing and I have a man! He doesn't like to have sex 2 times a day like me so sometimes I have to take care of myself with my toy!!! Its normal and until you get a female handle it yourself! Its ok!
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reader, Rey  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 I've just come out of serious relationship myself and I understand what you're going through. You can't hurry love, the right chick will come along when you least expect her to. In the mean time, don't feel bad about rubbing one out every so often. It's perfectly natural. There's nothing pathetic about it. People have urges and ability to satisfy them so they do. Its that simple. If you wanted something sweet you'd get a cookie or something, likewise with masturbation. Once you satisfy the urge you can get on with the rest of your day feeling a bit relieved. So, don't feel bad about it.
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