A
female
age
22-25,
*niks
writes:i had an affair like 3 years back i had a break up with him bcoz he was too passasive abt me and never use to trust me....bt now it is a year i am married to some one else...i met this person online actually after my breakup i was veryupset so i did nt think nothing and just decided to get married and evn families use to force me to get married so i started finding someone online and i found and i started talking to him and after talking to him just fro 5 days we decided to get married bt my family did nt liked him and i dont know i was also so stupid i did nt think nothing of ahead in my anger , he is from america and i am from pakistan he has no families in pakistan and i hv no one in america bt he has all his family in america and now after a year i am realizing few things tht i would hv decided and thought before and his nature was very nice and polite whn we use to talk before marrige nw also he is good bt he alwaz yells and talks i dont know y bt he cares for me too and in this one year i found him to be very fmaily oriented kind of person which i am nt .....whn i started with this relation i never thouht of ahead i just did it bcoz i liked him and his nature was diff too bt nw i find him little diff was he good just to get married to me ...he is never bothered evn if i cry or he dont show it , he never express wt he thinks for me and if i want to tell him something i hv to think hundred times ....so tht he dont yells and replies and i feel bad , i never feel free to discuss my prblms with him bcoz i know in return he will "say its ur fault" and thn i feel very alone husband and wife should feel free to discuss everything and now it has happen like i dont evn care if he dont talk to me or if something happens i dont know wt should i do ....plz helpme guys
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (18 October 2009):
 I find it astonishing after only 5 days of knowing him and online too you both decided to marry!
There lies the problem i feel you both do not know one another that well, most couples will spend a few years together before marrying and in that time you find out if you are compatible etc: before that ring goes on the finger!
You have both jumped into this way too soon i feel and your only getting to know one another and finding there are things your not too sure about?
You both need to decide whether or not you can carry on in this marriage like this and put in the work to rectify your problems, or decide that you both jumped in too soon and made a mistake!
The choice is yours, i wish you well.
Gina
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