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writes:Should you marry someone if the sex is not good and there is no possible way for it to get any better? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moon13 +, writes (20 February 2010):
 A simple no is sufficent.. trust us we have a lot of experience lol funny but true. :)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Looking at your original question in the context of your one follow-up, I'll revise my answer. You aren't happy. You're looking for something more, you think that "something more" is out there. If you marry this person, you'll still be looking for the 'something more', so you at some point will be tempted to cheat. Do not marry this person -- good sex is important to you, and he's not going to provide it. Move on.
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reader, Moon13 +, writes (19 February 2010):
Wish you would have given a little more detail into who's the bad lover, and what is exactly the issue, then we'd be more detailed or aware of the answers we give you. I personally think that love conquers all, but the sex, well it will either fustrate you for the rest of your life, or cause friction and divorce .. maybe even recentment. ONly you know how you feel now with your sex life, Fustrated i assume? Well imagine living that way the rest of your life... i think that alone answers your question. But be wise.. sex isnt everything sometimes we trade in a good man/woman with bad sex life for a hot steaming awesome sex and a shiit for brains, of a man/woman .. ask yourself which is better to live with and or without? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I say a solid NO, do not marry someone if the sex is terrible, it'll drive you insane in the end.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 You have incompatible sex drive . It sometimes happens that one has got a higher sex drive than the other but as long as you are there for him , he has no complains.
It only becomes a problem if you deny his sexual request.
Is it bad because he wants more often while you don't like it or is it bad because you don't feel satisfied?
You fear that because you cannot satisfy his needs that he will not be happy and may leave you ?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Certain things about lovemaking can improve with time and practice, and possibly some study, but there must be desire and some natural stuff going on. Some things cannot be fabricated regardless of intent. Some folks, whether male or female, are just bland (very plain) lovers. Call it lack of "electricity" or sparks or whatever. If it ain't there, then it just ain't there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You can improve on your sex life if you both want to. Having said that I don't think you should get married until you have done so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Mind-blowing sexual skills can be taught and learned easily.You cannot be taught or learn how to love.If the love is there, the rest will follow.Flynn 24
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reader, Shinra  +, writes (18 February 2010):
I say sex shouldn't be the reason people get/don't get married. As long as you both love eachother and want to be with eachother no matter what, then the quality of the sex shouldn't be an issue. If sex is the only reason you're undecided about whether or not to get married, then maybe now's not the time to get married. If it is a big issue though, why not try experimenting with different positions or styles (using toys etc.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): if you love him for who he is, then marry him for that.
if the sex sucks,
look up different positions that would interest YOU...
there's always ways to spice up your sex life!
if you look up a position you want to try, don't be even a little bit afraid to ask him about it.. if he's a man, he'll love that you want to try something different and new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess what I am trying to ask is do you think it would be a happy marriage if the sex is not good? Do you think it would last long? He wants to have sex more often then I do because it's just not good for me and then I feel because I feel like I should want to or something.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Our earth is full of people who love asceticism. Who feel proud for being puritanical, and they became lover of 'war'. Trading 'terror' with humanity.And, individual who do not care for good sex life, will met the same result. If you are good observer, you will see the working of this truth also. I do not need to give you example, daily news papers of all country report such instances in huge quantity.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 February 2010):
Little information to go on there, but based on the general idea offered, my response would be a simple - no.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (18 February 2010):
For some people sex isn't that important. If he's otherwise loving, attentive, hard-working, etc. then it might be fine.
You know yourself and what's important to you. If you can't imagine spending the rest of your time on earth without good sex, then find someone else.
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