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writes:My wife and I have been in marriage for 7 years. We have 2 kids. We both love each other. For the past 2 years we don't have much time to spend together because of her job. She run her own business. She come home late, around 1:00am everyday. I work during the day. She wanted me to get involved in her business but I'm not interested. I just encourage her to do it by her own and sometimes give her some advices but not want to get involved in detail.We have been fighting over this for the last 2 years. Since then our emotional relation is on the decline. Whenever we have the argument she ask "why we don't get separated?". It has never ever crossed my mined. Evertime I believe she is mentioning divorce because she is angry. My stand was lets put our job out of our marriage and accept as our own thing.I'm sick of fighting every late night over the same thing. Now I'm really thinking about divorce. I'm planning to ask her to give me time and space. I'm not sure if that will work. I want the marriage to work but I don't know the best approach. Please give me some advice.
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reader, justquestions  +, writes (17 January 2011):
I agree with Aunt Honesty, but would add one thing. You two should talk about this very soon. The longer you wait to talk, the worse your situation will become. Eventually, you may no longer be able to solve the problem this simply. You should both set a date night right away and stick to it. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, but it should be something fun.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 The both of you love each other and the stresses of work are coming in between the both of you. I dont think you should get seperated you just both need to work hard on making the relationship work. I think you both need to sit down some night and have a proper good talk to each other, open up to each other and be honest about how you both feel. The stresses of work and not getting to spend time with each other are going to be a huge influence on you both. Therefore maybe you could try and come up with some plan that would allow the both of you to spend more time together as a couple and also as a family with your children. You both need to get time to rebuild the relationship. Try and aim that once a week the both of you go on a night out. Get a babysitter and get some romance back in to the marriage. Once a week agree to go out somewere and spend time just the both of you and work hard on resolving the issues.
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