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writes:I'm 19, I've been with my boyfriend 'Matt' for 15 months and I love him dearly, we've always talked about goals and marriage and houses etc but lately our relationship has been on the rock pretty bad. He no longer makes me feel special and he doesn't make an effort to work on our relationship. I left him recently but we reconciled and i gave him his 10th and final 2nd chance. But over the weekend I was on a trip with my very hot, very sexy workmate 'Brad'. He took me out for a great night, we got totally drunk and ended up having sex. The worst bit was I didn't really feel guilty about cheating although I condem infidelity in every way. I love matt but I think our relationship is at an end. we don't have fun anymore, hes not treating me the way I deserve to be treated and we are always arguing about nothing. But brad and I can talk for hours about anything. we have more in common, we can laugh together and we have the same passions. Brad doesn't want anything serious and frankly that would suit me fine. My question is what should I do? Should I leave the man who wants to eventually marry me for the one who I can have a more exciting and less serious relationship? or stay where I am?
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reader, Embarr  +, writes (22 October 2007):
 If he no longer makes you feel special, then that may be answer enough for you. Have you tried talking out your differences? If not, I'd suggest that. But ultimately, a relationship that has nothing but fights and ignorance of each others feelings is not a relationship you want to be in. And if you're fine with a non-serious relationship then that's fine, but be warned that in the future that could change. You may find that you want a more serious relationship and if he doesn't then there will be a problem. It's okay just to date sometimes though. You've still got years ahead of you to find "the guy" and Brad may be just an experience along the way to finding your perfect man. Just be careful that experience doesn't turn sour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): I'm younger and probably less experienced than you, but I think that if you are at the point where you can have sex with someone else and not care 'Matt' enough to feel guily, it's time to end the relationship. Whether or not you care about getting with Brad, it doesn't sound like you want a future with 'Matt' very much.
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