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writes:So I'm in quite a predicament at the moment. My love life, while not the most exciting, is pretty stable. My last relationship lasted over a year. I don't date too often, but when I do, it's usually long lasting a serious. I've liked a girl for a while now. I denied it and cast it aside as just a high school crush. But over the past couple of months, I realize it isn't that simple. I really do like this girl. Our friendship continues to grow stronger, as does how I feel. Beware readers, it gets a bit more complicated. She has been in an online relationship with a guy she met online, who she has never met in real life, for two years. I want to be with her more than ever, but I'm afraid of risking her happiness and our friendship.I'm thinking I should bide my time until my chance comes. Should I wait or just tell her?
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (16 March 2011):
Just dont give her tooo much time. As I said before, do not let the chance slip
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): I think she was just shocked and didn't know what to say. I'm giving her some time to herself until she's ready to talk about it.
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (12 March 2011):
If she did not respond, you mean she acted like she ignored what you said?
Good luck and tell us how it all goes
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reader, c.greene95 +, writes (12 March 2011):
c.greene95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, that did not go like I planned. At all. I told her I really like her and I want to take her out, and she barely responds. In fact, I don't think she even acknowledged it. There wasn't even a response to what I said.
I'm going to have a mutual friend tell her some other things tonight. That way I won't be scared and not say half of what I planned, and she could hear what I really wanted to say. It's just a confusing as hell situation.
I want to thank you all for your awesome advice. It means alot to me and it really helped. I appreciate it all very much!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Good for you. Its normal to be nervous but even though you are dont let it give you a reason not to tell her. Just practice what you are going to say to her and then when the time comes just tell her. Goodluck and let us no how you get on. All the best.
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reader, c.greene95 +, writes (11 March 2011):
c.greene95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have decided that I am going to tell her and I've invited her and that friend I told you about to hang out at my place. I'm gonna tell her then, and let me tell you, I am nervous as hell about it! I'm going to avoid bringing her boyfriend up. That's a one way trip to failure. I'm just gonna lay it all out bros. Thanks for all the advice! :)
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 March 2011):
I agree with sebaslookingforward. You will never know unless you tell her. If she knocks you back and says she cant well then at least you will know and you can still be friends with her. Its a good thing to hear that someone likes you not a bad thing. So you need to go for it before the oppertunity passes you and you regret it.
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (9 March 2011):
Look, be a brave guy and dont let this opportunity slip before you regret it all your life! GO FOR IT. FLIRT WITH HER. MAKE HER YOURS MAN.Good luck! And if you do not succeed it doesnt necessarily mean you will not be friends with her anymore!
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reader, c.greene95 +, writes (9 March 2011):
c.greene95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI talked to a mutual friend about it. Apparently, she says if she didn't have her boyfriend then she'd date me. Which is sorta good news, but still frustrating at the same time, you know?
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reader, c.greene95 +, writes (9 March 2011):
c.greene95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the reply! I want her to know that she deserves someone who will give her more than she gets now... but what about putting the friedship at risk? I want her to be in my life somehow at least. as long as she's happy.
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (9 March 2011):
Man, this is kind of funny because it is the other end of "my online partner broke up with me because he physically found someone".
I have been in online relationships, 2 that I consider serious (they were not too long though) but a couple others that lasted nothing because of guys like you! Haha, but I am against online dating, it doesnt work, you cant truly love someone you have never met.
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH AUNT HONESTY, so now it's two people telling you that you should go for her!
She is missing out on many things that guys like you can offer her. Hold hands with her, love her, be affectionate to her, kiss her so passionately that she will never forget. She cannot have any of that online.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 March 2011):
I think you should tell her. Am sorry but am a strong believer that you cannot say you are in a relationship with someone if you have never met them in person. She is having a relationship with something that is fictional. She does not really know this guy or what he is really like. Anybody can say anything over the net. But you do not know somebody or fall in love with somebody until you have met them and spent some quality time with them.
I dont think you will be risking her happiness I think it would be good for her if you told her how you feel and it may get her thinking about what she is missing out on. So tell her how you feel and just keep it casual and say you thought she deserved to know the truth. Goodluck.
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