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writes:Wondering if I should stay with my boyfriend.I'm 6 months pregnant. My boyfriend works out of town a lot. Last visit he came into town and on the second day said, "We need to talk". He says he loves me but isn't sure if he is in love with me. Said we argue too much for his liking and it causes him to be more disconnected from his feelings. I started crying and asked if he was really going to break up with me while 6 months pregnant...I almost walked away. Then he said we then have to find something out to make it work. We need to talk openly.I'm considering moving to another city to make it work with this man (father of future baby). Now I'm not so sure. We had a bit of a rough time getting along, especially after finding out about the unexpected pregnancy. He was not so happy at first and this really hurt. Before I make life altering decisions, I want to know what others think. When a man who has been with you for less than 2 years isn't all that sure about you, what real hope do you have for the future?He says I'm brilliant and gorgeous, but he needs more. Maybe I'm not "the one" for him. We used to have a great connection and amazing chemistry, but all the distance and arguing takes its toll. Being in the new city will help that. But if our relationship is having this much trouble before the 2 year mark, is that a sign it won't last for many more years to come? Should I wait for that guy who knows he is crazy about me?? I've dated men who were crazy about me. My current bf was for a time but now things are very different. Sometimes I argue just to get emotion out of him.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Relationships go through cycles. All partners are "crazy" about their partner for a time, but love changes. It doesn't mean they stop loving you, it's just different. This is one of those cases where you shouldn't expect the "grass to be greener on the other side". Being 6 months pregnant it wouldn't hurt to sit down and talk about everything with your boyfriend. Both of you need to be completely honest and lay it all out for each other to see. If you love each and both really want to make it work somehow... then do that. But if either of you doesn't want to, then you should just try remaining friends and leave it at that.
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