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30-35,
*heeky Madam
writes:HiI've got a friend at work, well we recently started chatting as of jan. I would go down to his class room(he's a teacher) and we would chat on his free afternoons about music and other random stuff, we were both into steampunk, he without my knowing found me a new song to dance to after i mentioned i was looking for something new and so I gave him some tips on making some brooches.We were starting to get quite close he was flirty but nothing out of the ordinary just standard flirty behaviour really. Well outside of work we have no contact mainly because we still hadn't become close until recently then we had half term.Turns out he got sacked/left not sure but I think it was a mutual thing. Well my question is should I get in touch with him now or should I just let sleeping dogs lie? I know he is married and I have a bf, but not sure if a young girl making friends with you on Facebook or messaging you could come across completely wrong? I have no sexual feelings for him we just clicked as friends. Any ideas on what should be my next move?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2013): You are a former colleague,and you should leave it at that. You have a boyfriend and he has a wife. His wife would not understand the reason a young woman would "Friend" her husband on Facebook. If he hasn't introduced you to his wife, and bought you a gift...good thing he is gone. Leave it at that.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (26 February 2013):
 If it were me, I'd leave it. I am assuming he's a bit older than you, so maybe he was enjoying the attentions of a younger woman (some men need the ego boost).
One thing in all of this is glaringly wrong...he's married but flirting with you?...makes him a bit of an arsehole in my book...what about his wife? I'd be wary because it would be so easy to get sucked into something you might not want and some men can be very persuasive and manipulative to get what they want. For all you know, he could have been sacked for inappropriate behaviour!!
Let it lie, you have a boyfriend and there are better people to be friends with. Facebook friendships mean little and are just a convienient way for some people to have an opportunity to cheat behind their partners back.
I am sure you can see this and are not the kind of person who wants to get involved in something so underhanded that could easily get out of control.
He has a wife...respect that and forget him...he isn't available for a proper friendship with you.
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